Keep it simple this year. Don’t skip the button.
“Let’s keep it simple. Life is too short for drama.” This has been shared by a bunch of friends on Facebook as a New Year’s resolution. Reminding us that everyday hitches only requires a simple action to be solved. As easy as pushing the button.
So why do we sometimes skip the button?
It requires courage to push the button!
Keith Ferrazzi, author of “Never Eat Alone” says:
“Often times meeting someone or getting something simply requires that you ask — something very few people find the courage to do”
We skip the button and we wait. We wait for the conditions to be better: your mood, an opportunity shows up by itself or that someone even does it for you…
So we skip the button because we don’t know how to reachout.
We do ignore the benefits of pressing the button
Investing in relationships is unpredictable and always underestimated. As I use to at some point myself, until I saw how far a strong network could take me. Have you ever heard about the “six degrees of separation” theory?
Six degrees of separation is the theory that everyone and everything is six or fewer steps away, by way of introduction, from any other person in the world, so that a chain of “a friend of a friend” statements can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps. It was originally set out by Frigyes Karinthy in 1929 and popularized by a 1990 play written by John Guare. Wikipedia.org
Six steps away is a maximum. One day, I got introduced to Michael Jackson’s father by a friend. Sure I am a great admirer of MJs career. Although, I’ve never felt very close to the Jackson family, fancy Beverly Hills nor Neverland. As a matter of fact, I was a million miles away from that. But still, I had this conversation with Joe Jackson, thanks to a friend who referred me.
But we skip the button because we can’t predict the outcome.
We simply don’t give a damn
What if we help out around? What will happen if we take more accountability for each other success? Then what will happen if we care more? What the heck will happen if you give a sh*t?
It’s simple. You get leverage. It becomes even more powerful when you give a damn first, then you become even more legitimate.
If I organize events for Café Numérique or for GOTORO asbl, then I get some leverage among the audience, speakers or even the hosts. I’m not Mother Teresa. Helping speakers to build reputation, connecting the audience and giving visibility to partners build my capital. It’s not capital I cash-in. All this time spent giving a damn turns into ‘reputation capital’ within this particular community.
But we skip the button because it takes time and energy.
Keep it simple, stupid. Don’t skip the button this year. “Plunch” into it. Plunch brings the face-to-face back by simply pressing the button.