A Letter To Someone Dealing With Disappointment

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You got disappointed when your friend failed to meet your expectations and refused to fulfil his promise. Right now, you are emotionally pained.

There is a need to handle this disappointment properly before it leads to depression, hopelessness etc.

You may have realised that people may not stick to their words. Disappointments are bound to happen. The problem is how you react to them.

I am sure you have even disappointed other people in the past.

Accept that people are flawed. Not all disappointments are deliberate. Be compassionate. Forgive.

Don’t take disappointments personally. It is not about you. It is just a reflection of the person’s reality.

Maybe you set the bar too high. Question your expectations. Were they realistic? Do you think the person could have met your expectations? Did the person try his best? Do you have to revise your expectations?

Don’t feel sorry for yourself. It is easy to wallow in self-pity when disappointed. Don’t stay like that for long. The more time you spend feeling sorry for yourself, the more you will find things to feel sorry for. Don’t allow your mind to think negatively.

Look for the silver lining in the cloud. Draw some lessons from it. Allow disappointments to teach you.

Most importantly, see yourself as steadily moving forward in the midst of the pain. You got this!

Originally published at Dzifa Mensah.

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