How and Why I Love (You)

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“And I wonder how you can feel that strongly knowing only the surface of me, or anyone else.”

We had just began our first (and probably last) long-distance heart-to-heart text chat. You had deep concerns and hesitations about some words I had written to you previously, and were expressing them to me so we could work to clear the air between us.

“Told you, I’m a child of the 70s, Age of Aquarius.” Not being near as adept at text conversations as you, that was my reply. I realize now that may have come across as flippant, maybe even dismissive. It certainly doesn’t address your concerns or hesitations, and for that, I apologize. Please allow me to respond with hopefully a more comprehensive and understandable answer.

I believe love is global, and available to every human on this planet. I believe in unconditional love, as in, without any conditions. And lastly, I believe love is the very core of what and who we are as human beings. To be human means to be open to love, allowing it to flow into you and through you.

I see human history as a mix of two tales: Love and Hate. From the time we learned to write and read, we’ve been documenting love in all it’s glorious forms. Now, there’s of course no way I could ever cover all that’s been written about love, but I do want to share with you a recent article I read that describes love, and all we can be and have, if we simply allow love to do what it does.

The article is titled ‘Loving Large’, and details what some prominent scientific, medical, holistic, and philosophical professionals have discovered about love, and how the awareness and acceptance of love “brings us into contact with universal energy which connects all of humanity with the natural world.”

“Without exception, everything in nature exists and works together in total balance, resonance and harmony, interacting as one. From this perspective, Edgar and I reached the obvious conclusion — the organizing principle of the cosmos is agape love, an ultimate form of unconditional love that accepts all things existing in nature without regard to conditions, expectations, shortcomings, flaws or faults,” explains Staretz.

For love to be love, it must be unconditional. If we (attempt to) put conditions on love, it simply isn’t love. The organizing principle upon which all life is based is love, “without regard to conditions, expectations, shortcomings, flaws, or faults”.

I don’t believe that it takes time (a condition) to know someone before you can love them. It simply takes (unconditionally) choosing to do so. That way, when you do meet them, your time together can be better spent sharing and experiencing the love that you both are.

“Our soul’s purpose is to be and express love. We dream of love, yearn for love and make love, but rarely do we realize that we are love, a source of divine energy.”
“to discern that our true nature is love is to know that we are created in the very image and likeness of love, the essence of life itself.”

How can I feel so strongly about you knowing only the surface of you, or anyone else? Because I know the surface of me, the core of me, the very soul and nature of me, is love. And because I also know your surface, core, soul, and nature is love, as well. Knowing that, how could I not love you? Remember when I told you that I may know you much better than you think I do? That’s how.

“We are all connected by omnipresence, the energy of love, a heart connection of life. Consciously choosing this awareness allows us to be ‘love living life.’”

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world,” Mahatma Gandhi is quoted as saying. Many years ago, I made the conscious choice to do that, to be that. It required numerous paradigm shifts, where I had to unlearn all the garbage I had been forced to learn, and realize that consciously choosing love was simply me finally aligning my mind, body, heart, and soul with what I really am.

As I told you before, I damn sure wish you and I would’ve had more than those few brief moments together before you had to go. We could have shared more of our personal stories, especially our pasts.

However, the little bits I was able to share about me were I think enough to give you an idea as to some things I’ve seen and done. I hope it helps you understand more about me when I say that many of those things were done with an almost complete lack of love. Those things include much of my life before my military service, and during.

One reason why I love so strongly is to hopefully create and sustain a balance between when I was a loving person, and when I wasn’t. Even now, with all my formal and informal training to back me up, I stand ready to do things that could very well be labeled unloving, if called upon. Because of that, and to help keep my balance, I feel I have to be loving, so I can honestly and dutifully face those possible moments when I have to be otherwise.

Life is short, and can absolutely end for each of us at any moment. I’ve come to know this through my past. I think you know this, also, and it may consciously or subconsciously play a major role in why you do what you do.

Have you ever seen someone die? I have. I’ve been the last person to arrive at the hospital to see my grandmother hooked up to numerous machines keeping her alive. Though she could barely breathe, she damn near got out of the bed just so I could hug her.

“I made it. I’m here. I love you. You can go now.” Two short minutes later, the machines were turned off, and I watched her take her final breaths.

If we had more time together, I would tell you many more examples, including other family, friends, coworkers, and fellow soldiers seen one day, and gone forever the next. I would tell you of when my ex-wife said she was leaving, and taking our daughter, and how I didn’t see or hear from them again for nineteen years. And I would tell you about when I was told that my father had died, and how I’ve spent the last thirty-seven years trying to recall what my last words to him were.

People can come into your life at any moment, and they can leave your life at any moment. Want the world to be a better place? I do. That’s all the reason I need to have consciously chosen love, to be it, and do it. It’s very possible that I may be the last person someone sees before they move on. Do I want them to see hate, or love? I choose love.

You and I had a few brief moments together. It’s possible those may be our only moments together. I certainly hope not. But, think, how could I be anything but me, a loving person, during our moments? Would you had rather me be the opposite?

I love because I am love, consciously and unconditionally. I feel that strongly about me, and I feel that strongly about you. It’s why I feel that strongly about you, and everyone else. And because I do, my nature and desire is to share the me that I am with the you that you are. That is love. And this is how and why I am.