A New Year (To Be Silly)
So Facebook did one of those “Back in time” posts when I logged on yesterday, and I decided to share it. The point was to show people to let yourself be silly, because being serious all the time isn’t going to get you anywhere.
So, first thing’s first, let’s explain the photo: I was in grade eleven at the time and I wanted to show some school spirit. The colours of our school were Red&Grey — so naturally I wanted to dye my hair half-red and half-grey, simple, right? Right.
Well when you go to dye your hair, probably bleach all of it and not just half. The red dye went onto the darker hair and didn’t really show, while the grey went on the bleached part.
They both kinda washed out almost immediately, because I didn’t take proper care with it. What this did mean was I was left with super-awesome dual coloured hair for almost a whole year. I absolutely still love the look!
Now, onto the point I wanted to make with this silly picture…
One thing I notice about so many individuals I meet — and I meet a lot of people, and get to talk to them in depth about their lives — is the fear of being weird, of doing something no one else is doing in a group, and letting that effect and change who you are.
The individuals who don’t like to do some aspect of their home-care (usually self-massage, regressed motions,etc.) usually say something along the lines of:
“I feel silly!”
GREAT. That mean’s you’re doing something that you haven’t done, either in a while or at all, which means your brain, your whole nervous system, you, are learning and firing on all cylinders. It means that you’re taking in more information, because so much is new to you.
And the fact is, that’s the reason all of my home-care involves some form of interoception (in-tero-ception), which is your ability to sense what is going on inside your physical body. It’s because that is such an important sense that people seem to neglect, or forget about. So if you stop reading here, I want to leave you with one thing to remember:
You are in the driver’s seat of your body.
If you don’t need/use it (body parts, movements, etc.) — You’ll find a way to make it useful.
If you end up making it useful — You may find later down the line it’s not as reliable doing it’s original thing, or other things now need to work harder.
Your body is focused on what it needs to be doing, what has been working, and what makes the most sense at the time (this is super important).
If you need to sit at a desk to work all day, then eventually your body will settle into a routine — a way of doing that thing you need to do. This is impacted by everything in your life — fall and hurt yourself? Your body may need to change what makes the most sense, in the moment, afterwards, and while back at work, sitting.
So your body has been working a specific way, and then some aspect of it has changed(not failed, just changed). So then what makes the most sense now isn’t the same, because of the change.
So now you adapt. You accommodate.
Ideally when you’re done accommodating you’ll be able to adapt back to what was working before. Sometimes you can’t, though, either because the change you had caused more changes, a domino effect, or because you’ve simply forgotten — that’s common, and makes you normal.
It’s gotten easier for this new normal to be your “normal”. You still need to sit at that desk for work, but you’ve made other things useful in absence, or support, of one part (or more!)
So don’t feel bad about feeling silly — especially when that silly feeling is coming from you taking control of your life, your health, and most importantly your body.
True, dying your hair won’t help your back pain, but I hope you got the point — If you’re not doing interoception because it’s “silly”, if you’re not doing proper care of your body because you’ll look “silly”, that’s the problem.
You are in the drivers seat.
Take the wheel. Take control!
(embrace the silly)
Joshua Fry is a Movement Coach, Registered Massage Therapist, and Sports Massage Therapist (Candidate). He currently holds training in NeuroKinetic Therapy, Mood & Sleep Disorders, T.E.N.S and I.F.C, and is a certified Small Animal Massage Therapist.
He has spent the last three years working/traveling with national & international level athletes, provincial athletes, and rehabilitation patients. He excels at working with a patient to correct their movement and pain dysfunctions. Joshua recently volunteered time two provincial Massage Therapy Associations, the ANBMT and the CSMTA(atlantic chapter). He currently teaches workshops and courses to the general public and therapists of all kinds.
Looking to reach out — drop an E-mail to JoshuaFry.RMT@gmail.com