Published inRamiro Rants·Sep 8, 2021Notes on AbscondingI am tired. I am tired and I want to switch my brain off, it’s turning into mush anyway. Is that what happened to those women that kept “disappearing” when they hit 30? I remember P complaining, all those years ago, about the women who retreated into private life and…Politics5 min readPolitics5 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Jun 26, 2020After the virusIn the bourgeois neighbourhood, life after the virus is just another day. Families return from country homes in their 4x4s, parking on pavements earlier left empty for pedestrians. Nannies and cleaners and drivers come too, putting racial difference back on the streets. …Covid-194 min readCovid-194 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·May 2, 2020On Dating Tamagotchis™At a recent (virtual) dinner party, a single woman told my friend Sarah about her dating adventures in times of COVID-19. She had a handful of men courting her, which she referred to as her tamagotchis, after the virtual pet toy. I believe she encountered these men online and, since…Dating7 min readDating7 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Dec 11, 2019You are not alone, whatever tomorrow bringsIn my last year of university I plunged into deep depression. It didn’t exactly catch me by surprise and in many ways it felt more like something I could no longer outrun than an unexpected obstacle on the road. Indeed, it was triggered by the most obvious combination of events…Politics6 min readPolitics6 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Jul 1, 2019On fucking for the first timeI wonder how it feels to have sex in full knowledge of your vulnerability and yet be trusting of your partner in that awkwardly tender adolescent way only the most wholesome of first sexual experiences seem to turn out to be. For me it came late and it felt pressing…Sex6 min readSex6 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Aug 28, 2018Joan & BobI knew I was in love when I stopped fucking. Not just fucking around, fucking altogether. Full stop. I was the woman who fucked. The woman who loved fucking. The woman who battled for the right to fuck and love while disentangling the two. And now I don’t fuck. Look…Love3 min readLove3 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·May 21, 2018Notes from an addictI can feel the urgency in me building up. An urgency to be adored. To be told, in a flurry of words that I am, in sum, loved. This need to be adored is possibly just a need to feel desired. One is often indistinguishable from the other in my…Love2 min readLove2 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Apr 11, 2018Jigging in minefieldsI am about to turn 30. Right at the end of the month. I should be writting about this. About getting older, the end of my mystical, evergreen, 20s. I should be writing about feeling as confused about the future as I did when I was 18. I am not. …Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Dec 10, 2017A year in fucking menIn the summer I dated a man who accused me of being too blasé about relationships. I pleaded not guilty. I liked him. He was handsome, affectionate, and a fantastic fuck. Unlike the few men I had dated shortly before him, I reserved my time for him alone. No other…Sex4 min readSex4 min read
Published inRamiro Rants·Sep 14, 2017The Sexual Woman’s ManifestoI want a partner who sees my past, present and active sex life as part of my personality, not as a benchmark of my character. I want a partner who recognises that I have needs, likes, dislikes, and appetites and that they must be respected, cherished and, hopefully, enabled. I…Sex2 min readSex2 min read
