I was going to title this one HUHman but I really wanted this one to be upbeat- we’ll see how that goes! The sun is shining after all. Can’t be all that bad.
Yesterday I was a HUHman. In fact, I was having a cup of tea with a friend and one of my very first Melbourne clients from over 10 years ago and he asked me what I had been up to and how I was. Interesting question. Do I answer like most people and say “getting there” I mean, where is ‘there’ anyway? Always found that answer curious. Or, do I answer as though I had asked him the same question. I value openness and honesty so let’s just say I want the truth and yes I can handle the truth so here goes….
Here is when the HUHman came into play. The what the? The HUH?!! You know, the times when everything seems shitty or all those balls you were juggling neatly above my head in a halo- all angelic like seem to spin faster and faster so much so that I couldn’t keep them up there any more and one by one they smashed to the ground in quick succession. I did notice a while back that this was happening but I didn’t want to see it so I ignored it and hoped that it would improve. That it was temporary and that everything would get back on track. On track, like these beautiful creatures we see everywhere, the ones who have it all together, in love with life and generally making me feel worse about me not being in love with mine right now. Hang on! The truth is they can not make me feel anything. I am the one responsible for my feelings. Ok, focus, where was I….
Oh yes, so, how are you? Ok so just for the record you did ask so here it is.
I didn’t really know where to start. The smallest thing causing the biggest pain or the biggest thing causing the biggest pain. I started with work. This is a huge part of my life as I am a business owner x3 and I get to do what I love. Although sometimes it’s not love. I value openness, connection, having fun with people, giving them a different perspective and ideas to help them find the answers to solve their problems and live their best life.
My view on living a well-life (wellness) -living a best life seems to differ from many. I’m looking at finical wellness, social , spiritual, intellectual, physical, emotional, mindset, environmental and career wellness. Not like many clients who say wow I feel so much better now, I wont need you until something else breaks.Hmmm, wellness is maintaining, preventing, not fix it and wait for it to break. But this is a whole different story.
I’m frustrated that people don’t get it. By looking at or following bikini bodies with beautiful coloured oceans and a creative smattering of super foods in a rose gold virgin touched bowl with a stark white background and equally beautiful filter is not magically going to make your life into the one you want. That’s up to you. Do, Action, Be, Do, not ‘like and leave’
I stated thinking of my team suddenly and I said “ If I go in one more Monday morning and find all the heaters on and electric blankets on the massage tables again I’ll….” Ok so its a small thing but when you send reminders and check lists and short of timers on every electrical switch.. I had thought of that but really? Do they need this much babying? I’m not teaching them anything but doing it for them isn’t the answer. It would become a huge thing if the whole building burnt down though hey?
End rant of business #1
Begin rant business #2.
I custom create corporate wellness programs for companies to create their dream teams and attract people who value their wellness and being the best version of themselves and being a hueman. Hue. Colour — full. All aspects of themselves- working on all 9 dimensions of their well-life.
I get some companies asking for 450 people over 4 offices to have a once a year massage. With only one therapist and 2 hour time frame. I’m sorry we aren’t Santa. Oh and some of the ones we do have on a regular year long program- we are on a gag clause. So even if team members loved a class, massage, assessment, workshop, coaching session etc and asked us for a business card or where they can make an appointment, we cant tell them where we are for further or ongoing help. HUHman? Isn’t the point of a wellness program to encourage wellness not prevent it? CEO signs off on a wellness expo to give team members access to experts, advice, sample different therapies, classes, workshops, products to fins out what suits them best ongoing and CFO says no we aren’t doing a team building this year, we are doing a back to basics training and no, we can’t have any part of this included to make it fun and perhaps combine the two to get more value for the team and the company.
Ok I know I have really pissed some people off by this stage but these are simply my feelings for the day. My feelings.
Go on, you are on a roll. One final feeling for business #3.
We believe to have a well run business you have to run well. So we support business owners to look after their wellness and the wellness of the business too. I recently got a list of q’s from a prospective client some were very valid and I thought yes! Here is someone wanting me to put my money where my mouth is and then this….
“ How much money are you going to make me? “ HUHman? I am not going to make you any money. In fact I am going to cost you money. Hold on people, stay with me…It is an investment not a cost. We provide you with the tools, knowledge and teach you how so you can find the answers so you can make it successful.
Officially ended all HUHmans.
Are you still with me?
Shit, why did you ask me that question? Shift focus. Stop dwelling. Ok, so, for everyone and everything I am standing behind looking at thinking WOW! I remember there is someone standing right behind me thinking the same thing.
Take a breath
Let’s take a look at something else- financial wellness. I am in debt. There I said it. I don’t like this feeling as I like to be in control. Social wellness, well, I am not feeling like myself lately and not a very good friend right now either. I dread being asked how I am to be honest. I love connection as I said so not being social really hurts. I want to stay in bed and dream but I wake up with anxiety and all sweaty from my adrenal glands working over time trying to get me to focus on one thing at once and chill the f* out. Physical wellness. I own a Wellness centre so you would think I would have this s* covered all over. Well, when you forget, ignore, get busy, lazy and drop the ball or whatever you want to call it — no excuse really- shit happens to your body and mind. You lose it and gain it and not in the right way. I am grateful that I am being taught all these lessons and that I needed to get here to be able to get there but I have made it worse for myself by not sticking to it.
I even had the man flu. My body and mind were saying slow down HUHman and be a hueman. Accept all your hues and love them all for they all serve you. This isn’t about +ve VS -ve either as I believe there is negative in positive and visa versa — again another story.
I couldn’t keep stepping over all the balls on the floor any more.
After my download with my friend I felt much better. I felt clearer. Like I knew what to do. Doing something is better than nothing in this case. I started using my fitness tracker and food app again to keep me on track. I tend to over do the portion size — I come from a generous family so this helps me. I started writing again which I love and got some things crossed off my ‘work to do’ list that were bugging me. I got out my budget ready to work on in the morning, and while it was sunny and a little bit warm, I went outside with my dog Cardi and some music and went to the part and did a 25 min workout which I recorded and uploaded for anyone feeling like me and wanting to just move. No, I didn’t have a bikini on. Upbeat music. I love music and found some old school dance music and then Indian style really suited me today — who knew music and movement really does lift you up!
I am now focusing on the process not the outcome. I made a date with a friend of mine to catch up and got some new ideas to implement to provide more value to peoples lives. By doing something, one by one, one at a time, is better than burying your head under the covers and going back to bed. Embracing all the ‘hues’ of begin ‘human’ and that includes the HUH’s as well.