What Do You Do When You Want To Give Up?
Can I tell you something I’m ashamed about? I’ve started and quit more things than I would care to admit. I’m one of those dreamers with stars in his eyes who sees the big picture but unfortunately gets lost in the details. I want it all, but I can’t commit to burning the midnight oil. When the going gets tough, I get the hell outta there.
My attitude is changing however and I am finding that I’m beginning to enjoy hard, boring work. I’m reprogramming my mental wiring to see small steps and big gains and to keep consistency as my key to success. It hasn’t been easy though. If you’re anything like me, you want to make the most of your time and do as much as you can at the expense of quality. Here’s what I’m doing to get to my eventual goals. Do you think these are the right steps to take?
Fall In Love With Boredom
This is a great saying that I heard once and it’s stuck with me ever since. If you fall in love with boredom, you will be successful. What does this mean specifically? Many of the greats in history practised the most boring things, be it writing things out by hand, doing the same brush stroke over and over, practising the same action or movement until it was fused into their muscle memory. There is no difference with anything you want to achieve.
It’s practice, failure, practice, failure. You won’t see visible gains every time, but it’s the consistency that counts. The paradigm shift is when you realise that you’re feeling bored, you should feel happy because that’s how you know that you’re making progress. So you keep doing it.
A great problem I had was that I would not give myself tasks to do that were doable in a set time frame. It all comes back to creating SMART goals, but I’d find myself frustrated because a month has passed and I have nothing to show for it. So what did I do? I set micro-goals: goals that were unbelievably easy to do.
I tricked my mind into doing more than it should have by giving myself permission to write one word. That’s right one, measly word. It could have been “the”, or “a”. I tell myself to get up and take a walk. What does my mind say? “Come on, Johnson! Write another word!” Then I write and write and write and get more stuff done.
What’s Your Vision?
I tend to be a very visual person. I can see what I want to have in the future. When I’m feeling down and out, I just remember the vision for the future that I’ve crafted for myself and recreate it in front of me. I focus and allow myself to feel it, taste it and sense it as much as possible.
Being reminded of these sort of goals will allow you keep focused and can be the boost that you need to keep you going when you don’t feel like going on any more.
So if you want to give up, allow yourself to feel bored, start with laughably easy goals and keep the strength of your vision in mind.
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