Yes, to almost all of this. As an emotionally intelligent man I will say that I had a equivalent experience with my brief foray into hook-up culture. I couldn’t believe how many women I met who wanted me to fuck them as hard as I could and thought that they were doing me a favor. And I’m not saying I blame the women for their misconception - just another example of how our culture doesn’t want to openly discuss what men and women really want. I was pretty shocked to meet women whose stated aim was to enter a long term relationship with me, despite clearly not really liking me very much. There’s plenty of misinformation on both sides of the gender aisle.
But do we really have to choose between ‘hook-ups’ and monogamy? What happened to dating - is it really that old-fashioned?