All fine and Dandy. But, what you fail to realize. Is how many of the “violent” fathers actually threaten the boyfriend like the talk about. When all they are saying is merely. I love my daughter enough to protect her from harm. I hope your approach works. I can’t say it won’t, because it comes down to the fact there is no single right way to raise a child. Even in the same family, each child is different. If you seriously take what these father say as how things really happen. Then you need to relax on the seriousness of the way you look at things.