Stop Phoning In Your Life

Are you phoning it in? As we get more comfortable in our lives, it becomes so routine that we tend to phone in our normal activities.

The gym, our job, the interaction with our family and friends, even our goal setting and wish lists all become routine. It’s something we’ve trained ourselves to do, but forget the reason why we do them or use the process to fuel our fire on a daily basis.

When you’ve started to phone in most of your life and put it on autopilot so you don’t have to think about the hard stuff, make the crucial choices and changes needed to propel you forward you’ve lost your mission and your purpose.

Slowly year after year we become more automatic with no results to show for it. If you’re a regular gym goer, take a look around. How many of the other members are still kind of in the same shape even though they’re putting in the time?

What about at work, how many of your co-workers are “stuck” with no possibilities of a promotion?

They and you all become kind of like zombies. Just walking through life doing what you’ve always done getting the same results because you have nothing better to do (right now.)

Correctly Using Autopilot Can Bring Tremendous Results

Putting your life on autopilot can create tremendous results if done with the right purpose and mission behind them and a system to constantly evaluate and adjust.

A trident has three prongs and so should your automatic routines.

The first key to determine if you’re in a downward cycle is to determine the results you’re getting. Ask yourself, what in my life has stalled out? Am I progressing in my career, my relationships, my health or any other area of your life.

If you don’t find a measurable difference between six months ago and now, you’ve stalled out.

Don’t worry, it’s easy to fix, really easy to fix and you can course correct in less than a month. This may seem like a long time, but if you don’t take the necessary steps right now to correct and redeploy your black box, you’ll be in the exact same spot six months from now wondering what happened, where did the time go?

A Three Step Process To Start Making Real Changes

(step one) identify what you have on autopilot (workout, commute, job, family dinners, weekly networking lunches, hiking with friends and so on.) What do you do habitually in areas of your life you want to improve?

(step two) dig in and examine what the real result you want is. I keep going back to working out because it’s generally the most frequent and wide reaching area everyone tells themselves they have to improve in (lose weight, more flexible, more energy, etc.) Dig deep and find the reason way out there why you want to improve an area of your life. Instead of I want to lose weight so I have more energy is kind of like a wet blanket. Instead why not try something like, I want to lose weight ot increase my energy so that I feel powerful in my daily life and I have the focus and concentration to have that awesome life with my significant other and command a presence at work that lifts my career to the next level.

(hint) If you’re exhausted after working out and don’t have the energy for anything else in your life or no matter how hard you work out you never see any changes (your weight is the same year after year, you don’t increase your stamina or endurance) then you’ve plateaued and became comfortable, this is a clear indication that a change is needed.

(step three) is to plant the new purpose in your mind so it acts as a trigger, just by creating a small visual in your mind and repeatedly telling yourself what you’re driving for creates an invisible steering wheel that points you in the direction you want to go.

This simple three step process can start getting you out of your rut and onto a new path, once you take the initial steps and see the changes appear in your life, you’ll give yourself a little boost to continue forward.

Don’t Give Up The Ship When You Start Taking On Some Water

This process isn’t easy to implement and sustain, as humans we tend to revert back to the easiest path, which is the one we’re currently on. If you’ve been following the same automatic routines for years it will be even harder to jump out of the ruts.

This is where checking in daily and not beating yourself up for small slips is important. It’s not about doubling down on actions or commitment, it’s about consciously choosing in the moment to change.

If you’ve developed a pattern over the course of years, it will take being conscious of that pattern, making the decision to change it at the specified time and then acting on the new action you’re committed to doing.

If you slip up, examine why, don’t just say “I’ll try harder tomorrow.” Instead find the reason why you are traveling back to the easy path.

Real progress in yoru life comes when you start examining all the small rocks in your life and moving them around so they create your own min-monolith.

When they are haphazard and strewn about it’s hard to navigate the path, but if you organize them in a logical and systematic manner and align them with your path you can step around them with ease.

As you plan out your day and go through it examine what you have on autopilot, why you have it on autopilot and what results your achieving. Are the the results you want, if not how will you change them now?

Originally published at on June 23, 2016.

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