On the Shibari front — learn it, Sherry, or get Peter on the case if you want him to Top. I don’t think your neck thing will be a hindrance if you Bottom.

I never Top in Shibari. I’m a pretty dominant person in life and this is my way of forfeiting control that I don’t need to have. But I love the feeling of the ropes and of human touch. I choose to Bottom in this stuff. We don’t do any other stuff — I’m not good with being told what to do.

My husband is a rare exotic animal, like you are, Sherry.

It takes time but it’s like anything, easy once you know. As long as you are careful about circulation (very, very important) I think it’s worth a try. The other very important thing is get the natural ropes, never settle for the cheaper synthetic stuff. It will hurt your skin. Go au natural all the way.

Especially when you graduate on to the suspension stuff.

Perhaps I’ll do one on suspended Shibari.

I actually wrote that piece literally as it was being done to me. At one point, when my arms were tied, it was dictated. My husband had to stop and type my words into his Evernote.

It’s one of the best feelings in the world. If you love art and you love human touch, if you need to be cared for in your mind, body and soul, this is as good as it gets.

The hard fucking is optional. Ha.

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