I am so thankful that the last wedding I attended was within driving distance and was held at a venue where people could stay for free (there were cabins and also places for people to put up tents). The bride and groom were very conscious of the costs for guests because they have been to so many weddings and spent so much money going to them and they wanted to make it as inexpensive as possible for their friends. The pre-wedding lady festivities were tubing on a river and then going out for a nice but not extravagant dinner. No shower. It was awesome.