Thank you for this well-written article and sharing a touching personal story. I am young (thenty three) so it gave me an interesting insight into the nature of female attraction as it is such a puzzle to me at times. I like this thesis, as you pointed out, that likeness to someone is not entirely about how you like your partner, but about how you fell around him/her.
This may sound naive, but I thought (or probably hoped) that in loving relationships woman could drive her man to acheivements whether he is already successful or yet “a man with potential” rather than waiting for something. Probably you are talking about a kind of men who are full of plans and ambitions rather than those who acheive every day.