And so, here’s what I told my son: What the Ansari incident is bringing up for women is that some women gave up their power and silently endured humiliating sex because of self-doubt. Some, like me, guarded themselves to such a degree to avoid sexual encounters of this kind that we lost out on the joys of flirtation, of mutual seduction, of the pleasures of our own sensuality. We policed ourselves because we knew no one would come to our feeble call. We only partook when we’d checked all our boxes that said, “Safe.” All of this is rooted in toxic masculinity. All of this is rooted in rape culture.
…, I dedicated most of my energy and focus on growing the business and not growing our relationship. What I realized when it was too late, was that you can spend all your efforts getting the girl, but if you don’t continue to spend your efforts in growing your relationship together, the flower will eventually wilt.