There is much to discuss in this. Layers of stuff. Truth. But I’m not sure we can totally blame the patriarchy for women drinking to excess. Men do it too…although perhaps for different reasons, but some the same. I’ve never been much of a drinker so the sexism you have noticed is nothing new to me. Maybe it’s true that you and some other ladies have been blind to it due to your beer goggles. Well, welcome to sobriety and to the patriarchy. It’s been here for quite some time. And I have no regrets about living my life sober…. I discovered long ago, that drinking and being drunk wasn’t for me. I just don’t care for it. I still have the occasional glass of wine, but who needs to add another level of “no control” to our lives? EF that. I prefer to have my wits about me. On another note, where the hell do you work that they let people drink booze and have a bar???????OMG that is CRAZY! I can’t drink in my job, that would be a ticket to being unemployed. And…No way in hell would allow my employees to do that if I ran my own business. Is this a common thing that I didn’t know about? Are there actual businesses that supply their empolyees with booze? Good lord, that’s a horrible idea. No wonder half of Americans and drunk. Sheesh.