Put Your Oxygen Masks On This Week
Let me ask you a question. What would it take for you to stop putting your wants, needs and requirements on the back burner and begin adding yourself to your to-do list?
It sounds nice to mention all that you should do for yourself — I should go get a massage, I should take today off to just reflect and relax, maybe I should tell this person “no” because I am exhausted, etc…
My self-love journey began when I stopped putting my happiness in the hands of others and at the bottom of my list.
Why doesn’t he do this for me? Why doesn’t she do this for me? How could he/she do this to me? Why don’t they care about me? They don’t make me happy.
Often times we give too much of ourselves to others, neglect our own needs and then end up resentful when we are left empty and depleted.
It’s a topic I revisit often, in my thoughts and conversations. While I don’t claim to have it all figured out…
I know for sure that the only way to truly show up, be present and give of ourselves in the most authentic way is if we make it a practice to put our oxygen masks on.
I used to find reasons for why I was sad or unhappy or unfulfilled or unsatisfied by placing my expectations for my life in the hands of others, giving people a certain kind of responsibility to make me happy.
It’s great to be in a committed relationship, to have awesome friends, to be a great mother/sister/daughter and boss, but how are you treating yourself?
If you have my Success Planner then you know how important self-care and wellness is to me. I believe that the only way to fill up our joy tanks is if we make it an absolute requirement on our busy schedules.
What is it that you like to do?
Art? Music? Travel? Eating? Writing? Sketching? Walking? Running? Swimming? Volunteering?
Human experiences are derived from all the senses, not just sight. We are most effective, creative and engaged when a variety of our senses are stimulated. Let them guide you — maybe it’s the rhythm of music that moves you to go out dancing or the decadent smell of a dish that inspires you to take a cooking class.
We often wait until it’s a special occasion like our birthday or when we are at our breaking point to decide that now is the time.
Instead of filling up space with empty conversations or scrolling on your phone, start with scheduling five minutes each morning to awaken your senses with deep breathing. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Create a sensory experience by drawing your awareness to life’s sounds, smells, textures and tastes.
“To live the lives we truly want and deserve, and not just the lives we settle for, we need a third metric, a third measure of success that goes beyond the two metrics of money and power, and consists of four pillars: well-being, wisdom, wonder, and giving.”
This week, pencil some “me” time into your planner. Doing things that genuinely make you happy — things that spark your senses (all of them), ignite your desires — things that will actually fill you up so that you have more to give, you are better able to take care of loved ones and feel clearer to make healthier decisions. You will not be pulling from an empty stock.
Look within yourself to figure out what it is that makes you laugh, smile, jump with joy, dance for no reason, be silly — and if you aren’t sure about what it is that makes you happy — then TRY EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING.
What have you got to lose? Nothing.
As you invite bigger and brighter opportunities into your life, remember to connect with like-minded individuals who are on the same journey as you.
Thrive on beautiful warriors, thrive on.
Your Success Cheerleader,