What Women Don’t Say

Priya — Hi Priya, I like some of your creative writing but when you write non-fiction it all seems to spiral into illogical fallacy and personal ideologies. For example, this article and the one about ‘Solid Dudes’ really beg the question. They’re the type of articles that get picked by medium staff because they’re ‘click-baity’ and trendy, but which (ironically) can do more damage and harm to facilitating respectful gender discourse. But perhaps that doesn’t genuinely concern you as long as you get the ‘likes’ come flooding in from the echo-chamber of confirmation bias which constitutes feminist dogma today. A rhetorical question.

As other have alluded to, including by women, the ideas you put forth reek of privilege and entitlement. Yes, entitlement. And yes, privilege. No one is more privileged in society than young and attractive (or even just semi-attractive) females in developed countries today. If you understood evolutionary biology you would accept this as unequivocal fact. The root problem is that women conflate personal grievance with collective oppression — but the two are obviously fundamentally distinct. First and second wave feminism were great, but the kind of ‘third wave’ feminism women are riding on today is a deranged power-grab, which perfectly mirrors females’ sense of entitlement to a man’s resources, time and energy.

‘Oppression’ denotes a relative position, i.e. one group suffers more than another. If both men and women were oppressed, then neither would be oppressed. The burden of proof rests squarely on you to prove the status of ‘oppressed’ — a theme you implicitly allude to in your articles even if not saying it explicitly.

You seem to position yourself as a gatekeeper and judge of character, and yet you simultaneously (if implicitly) claim victimhood, when it is convenient for you to do so. Equality and privilege, yet unable to see the preposterousness of the situation. Right on cue with Briffault’s Law, and the negative female archetype (i.e. female hypergamy in objectifying men for their status and resources), you fall into the paradoxical trap of complaining about a particular type of man (e.g. the one who embodies the ‘patriarchy’) and yet selectively validating that same type of man through your sexual preference. In other words, you complain about a problem which you are partly and largely responsible for creating.

I don’t expect you to understand this, let alone take responsibility for your role in creating the problem. Alas, women generally are averse to taking their share of responsibility for the ills of the world, preferring to cloak themselves in victimhood and derive all the benefits therein. Privileged women dumbly claiming victimhood to get further gains, and feeling entitled to do so, unquestioningly and self-righteously.

It’s a shame because the strongest and most noble women I've met in my life are those who ditch the victim status and assume responsibility for their own lives. Strong women want to understand men, to walk side by side with them, not to objectify them for their resources, and not to dump shame on them in a scapegoating and pathologically-capricious manner.

I suggest reading or listening to Esther Vilar’s seminal book The Manipulated Man — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EcAWn2D8EsM.

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