Çok Sağlam Psikolojik (Takviye) Kitap Listesi

Bunları okuduktan sonra da iyileşemezseniz… Artık ben ne diyim :)

1. Beden Asla Yalan Söylemez:

birine öfkelenme özgürlüğümüz yoksa onu sevmeyi seçemeyiz. sevmeme özgürlüğümüz olmayan birini gerçekte(n) sevemeyiz.

birine karşı hissettiğimiz duygu “ona karşı hissetmemiz gerekenler” diye önceden tarif edilmişse, onunla meselemiz bitmeyecek, hatta başlayamayacaktır bile.

gerçek hayatta “böyle hissetmem lazım!”, “şöyle hissetmemem lazım!” diye bir şey yoktur çünkü. hisler ne yöne gideceklerini gerekliliklere sormazlar. hiçbir ‘gerçek’ ve olgun ilişki özünde nesnel değildir. özneler ‘gerçek’ paylaşımlarını nesnellik üzerinden kurmazlar.

kabullenme özgürlüğümüz olmayan her duygu dışarıya akamayan bir irin gibi bedenimizi ve ruhumuzu ele geçirir. içimize hapsettiğimiz her duygu aynı zamanda içimizi hapseder.

üzerini örttüğümüz her şeyin altında kalırız çünkü. eksik olduğumuzu ararız, hem de eksik bırakandan ya da ona benzeyenden. noksanımızı, bizi zaten noksan bırakandan dileniriz bir ömür boyu.

oysa yapabileceğimiz yegâne şey alamadığımız ilgiyi, saygıyı, duygularımıza dair anlayışı, korumayı ve koşulsuz sevgiyi kendimize gösterebilmemizdir. insan ancak kendi kendinin ebeveyni olabildiğinde yetişkin, özgür ve mutlu olabilir.

bunlar içinizde bir yerlere biraz tanıdık geliyorsa bu kitabı okumaya hazırsınız. size bu kitabın kimle veya kimlerle ilişkinize dair olduğunu söylemeyeceğim yine de… çünkü biliyorum ki söylersem kaçacaksınız. size iyi gelmediği, sizi mahvettiği, sizi hasta ettiği, sizi mutsuz ettiği hâlde kaçacaksınız.

oysa kaçmanın kendisiydi asıl korkunuz. biraz canınızın yanmasına izin verirseniz, canınızın yanması geçecek. sizi kendinizin şifalı ellerine doğru çağırıyorum.
- cem mumcu-

2. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments — from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga — that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal — and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

The Little Book of Hygge : The Danish Way to Live Well

Denmark is often said to be the happiest country in the world. That’s down to one thing: hygge. ‘Hygge has been translated as everything from the art of creating intimacy to cosiness of the soul to taking pleasure from the presence of soothing things. My personal favourite is cocoa by candlelight…’ You know hygge when you feel it. It is when you are cuddled up on a sofa with a loved one, or sharing comfort food with your closest friends. It is those crisp blue mornings when the light through your window is just right. Who better than Meik Wiking to be your guide to all things hygge? Meik is CEO of the Happiness Research Institute in Copenhagen and has spent years studying the magic of Danish life. In this beautiful, inspiring book he will help you be more hygge: from picking the right lighting and planning a dinner party through to creating an emergency hygge kit and even how to dress. Meik Wiking is the CEO of the Happiness Research Institute in Copenhagen. He is committed to finding out what makes people happy and has concluded that hygge is the magic ingredient that makes Danes the happiest nation in the world.

BEING MORTAL

For most of human history, death was a common, ever-present possibility. It didn’t matter whether you were five or fifty — every day was a roll of the dice. But now, as medical advances push the boundaries of survival further each year, we have become increasingly detached from the reality of being mortal. So here is a book about the modern experience of mortality — about what it’s like to get old and die, how medicine has changed this and how it hasn’t, where our ideas about death have gone wrong. With his trademark mix of perceptiveness and sensitivity, Atul Gawande outlines a story that crosses the globe, as he examines his experiences as a surgeon and those of his patients and family, and learns to accept the limits of what he can do. Never before has aging been such an important topic. The systems that we have put in place to manage our mortality are manifestly failing; but, as Gawande reveals, it doesn’t have to be this way. The ultimate goal, after all, is not a good death, but a good life — all the way to the very end. Published in partnership with the Wellcome Collection, a free visitor destination that explores the connections between medicine, life and art.

TANRILAR OKULU — STEFANO D’ANNA

Hayat; tıpkı bana yaptığı gibi, sizi de, bir mengenede soluğunuz kesilinceye kadar sıktığında, sizi içinden çıkamayacağınız hayal kırıklıklarına uğrattığında ve hiç bir çıkışyolu bulamadığınızda… işte ancak o zaman bu Kitap, biranda elinize geçecek ve sizi bulacaktır. Böylece Bireysel Devrim’iniziçin, bir insanın hayal edebileceği en büyük maceraya hazırolduğunuzu bileceksiniz: Bütünlüğün üzeve yolunu kaybettiğiniz cennetinize yeniden kavuşmak.

This book is a map and an escape plan. Its aim is to show you the path followed by an ordinary man away from an hypnotic view of the world and an accusing and plaintive interpretation of existence to escape the rut of a programmed destiny. This book would never have come to be nor could I have written a single line had I not encountered the Dreamer and his teachings. This book is the story of the rebirth of a common man who is the epitome of a fallen defeated Humanity. His journey back to the essence is a new exodus in search of list integrity.

Waking The Tiger:

Waking the Tiger offers a new and hopeful vision of trauma. It views the human animal as a unique being, endowed with an instinctual capacity. It asks and answers an intriguing question: why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed.

GUT :

The Inside Story of Our Body’s Most Underrated Organ

In the words of the author, “We live in an era in which we are just beginning to understand just how complex the connections are between us, our food, our pets, and the microscopic world in, on, and around us. We are gradually decoding processes that we used to believe were part of our inescapable destiny.”

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