Struggles of growing up. Thoughts

Strictly speaking to the younger part of this website.

Is it just me or does the advice «be who you want to be» bring some kind of pressure with itself? I have the feeling it’s pressuring me into choosing what kind of person I want to be and pressuring me into trying to be that person. It leads to forcing yourself into a corset or a stereotype.

The internet, as an extreme example, is filled with people who «represent» a particular stereotype and whoever does it the best is considered as successful and exemplary. I realised that I am shockingly hard influenced by this «movement» and I’m trying to get myself out of it, because I am convinced it’s not healthy at all. Sure, you get some kind of satisfaction when you get a step closer to what you want to be, but at the same time you get away from yourself.

But there’s another thought: Is it necessary, that we have to find out who we are? Because everybody says so. I get the feeling people are waiting for us (teenagers) to figure ourselves out. But is it necessary?
 I think it’s not only unnecessary but impossible, because who you are is not constant. I think a person changes with every influence around and inside him and does not have a «true self» as many people say. There is no such thing as a person influenced by nothing (which is idealised by the media). I believe, the best way to live is to do what you like and not trying to label anything. Care what (which) people think of you. Or don’t. It’s your choice. All of it. You can do whatever you want, there are no rules. All you can do, is that you are careful what you do with that freedom. And that’s what I’m trying to figure out.