This Is Not Negotiable. — One of the core messages I find myself supporting is that “cis-gendered comfort is not more important than trans lives.” As a cis-gendered woman (I feel that I am female and was assigned female at birth), I have also been taught to stifle my inner fire for others comfort, that…

I’m sick of humanity having to fight for such a basic need. — I don’t want to be called Kate, call me Katy. That lady doesn’t like her nickname being shortened, so don’t shorten it. When someone tells you their preferred pronouns, it’s not fucking hard. I cannot begin to imagine what it is like to have my existence questioned or doubted every…

From Another NHS Worker You Just Lost. — Yet again I sit here trying to write about wellbeing. I try to be eloquent in my language, and to cite the research for my opinions. I wanted to talk today about what I’ve learned in the mental health industry, in my Masters degree and my post-qualifying courses. I want…

Getting Back On The Wagon Without Losing Progress — So often I hear stories of people reinventing themselves by leaving their current life. I’ve only seen ‘reinvention’ in the media from people who got a divorce, flew around the world, or sold all of their possessions to live in a tiny house. Eat-Pray-Love, style. These are steps toward reinvention…

From a neuroscience postgraduate to all human beings — Language in newspaper headlines is designed to sell papers. To outrage. To stimulate. To get you talking. To get you sharing. To manipulate you. Sometimes, this means the story is an outright lie. Other times though, they take a grain of truth that looks “obvious” and twist it into something sinister. To control you. To sell more papers. To…

A Beginner’s Guide to Unlocking your Energy — One of the main themes of my coaching work focuses on motivation, and a lot of the questions I’m asked demonstrate just how little we’re taught about how the human mind works and how to achieve our goals effectively. How do you stay motivated? How do you keep progressing when…

As an autistic queer with two psychology degrees, I have shied away from the attachment theories I was taught (Bowlby etc) and must admit I've been meaning to read this book but feel something stops me. …

Thank you. Grief, Anxiety & Shame are such complex emotions around change in circumstances, and as a mental health professional currently in therapy to help me manage the season i'm in - it can feel so damn isolating.

We're so quick to blame ourselves when sometimes, life is overwhelming for everyone. I feel like I've been on both sides of this experience, and both times the anxiety around it has been unhealful unless I used it to try to address the mismatch in communication. After all, anxiety is there to motivate us to change something that doesn't feel right or plan in case things change. Thinking of my anxiety as amessenger really helps me to question how true its fears are.