I screw up. Like daily. Today I let the cat out of the bag and I don’t know that I should count it as today’s screw up or Monday’s because it really hit the public then, but was noticed today. Hell, let’s call it even and credit Tuesday. Yes, I blame that one on Tuesday. Sounds fair. Here’s the reality check my friends: you screw up daily, too. Even the most cautious among you, the risk averse safety one who refuses to jay walk, who follows all the safe rules, or who dares not drive even a mile over the speed limit. The biggest screw up you are doing each day is playing it safe rather than digging in and getting messy in this life.

Last Saturday I went out in this fabulous sexy new dress with my girlfriends and, as we were crossing Las Vegas Boulevard in my ridiculous sexy heels I fell flat on my ass, having rolled an ankle. My best friend, Kat, says it “looked like a minor slip up you recovered well from,” but it felt like the normal girl equivalent of Naomi Campbell falling on her face in the middle of a Fashion Week runway. A homeless gentleman was kind enough to laugh hysterically and then remember as we walked back by later that evening. I was mortified. Falling flat on your ass in a fabulous dress, wether physically, emotionally, or professionally, teaches you more than being adored ever will in this life. Lessons I learned that night? My girlfriends will pick me up when I fall, I have the ability to smile through even the least glamorous moments in my life, and margaritas are as effective on rolled ankle pain as Tylenol.

How often do you hold back daring to take a chance or be bold in your daily life? You worry what people will think or you worry what will happen. The truth of the matter is that you are really afraid of the amazing things that could happen if you dared to live so boldly. The dream guy, the dream job, the dream investor- if you want to live the dream you dream about, it will demand that you set aside your fears and get on with living your best life. Everyone falls flat on their ass at some point. Oprah Winfrey struggled with her television network after decades of record setting success. Every actress who hits the big screen had to go through a hundred auditions she didn’t get before she got the role of a lifetime. Each entrepreneur that was an “overnight success” spent years failing forward just to achieve what appears to have happened in a flash.

I used to spend my days worrying. I worried about the story that others would tell about me. I worried about the people who didn’t like me. I could call them haters, but let’s be honest, not everyone in this world is going to understand you and, frankly, some just aren’t going to like you. That’s cool because life is a quality over quantity game and the people you click with- the ones who must have been family in another life- will appreciate you, celebrate you, and invest in you enough to justify a lifetime of joy. It always surprises me when I hear that someone from my past is still focused on me and how I spend my days. I am sincerely too busy raising two beautiful little lady leaders and improving myself to give you a second thought. Whatever you focus on grows, so focus on investing in the people who feed your soul. Focus on being bold, taking the chances, and getting messy in this life by truly living it. Everything you want is on the other side of fear and worry.