Dude, I will NEVER bring heat when someone comes to me respectfully. I addressed this in another post, but here’s the thing about force. No, the dude didn’t hold a gun to my head. But some men do get irrationally angry if they want you to do something and you don’t. I’ve been assaulted so it’s not a chance I take. Also, even if he just went “ugh fine” it’s still a negative reaction. All I was trying to do was walk in the damn door in an orderly fashion (him on one side, me on the other) so why should I have to be weighing shit like that?