Make 2016 Your Sexiest Year: For Couples

Have you made your 2016 resolutions? Have you broken them yet? How about making a resolution that will benefit both you and your partner? In my inaugural podcast I dish on my top sexy tips to make 2016 your best sexual year yet!

Kelly McDonnell-Arnold’s Top 9 Tips for Couples to have a Sexy 2016

Tip #1: Love your body!

Having a positive body image, confidence and feeling attractive all play into one’s sexual and sensual self. Do not lose your sense of self. Tap into playfulness and cultivate a good relationship with your overall health and wellness as well as sexual health and sexual wellness.

Tip #2: Have a little fun!

Enhance your emotional and physical intimacy outside of the bedroom. Work on your relationship! Show up and be present. If things are not going well outside of the bedroom, you cannot expect them to get better inside of the bedroom. Start responding to conflict differently and make an effort to show your partner(s) you care. You need to strengthen trust and create more space for shared vulnerability if you want to take your sexuality to new and exciting places.

Tip #3: Admire your partner!

It can be too easy to become complacent. Next time you see your partner(s) excelling, thriving, even being checked out by someone else, appreciate their strengths and talents. Allow and capitalize on your shift in perception.

Tip #4: Make sex a priority.

If you continue to reflect upon how much you do NOT want to engage in sex or how bored you are, it will hold you back from experiencing your personal sexual ecstasy. Nourish your sexual self by focusing on positive self-talk and sexy thoughts.

Tip #5: Erotic massage — yes please!

Plan a weekly erotic massage date — no giving orgasms allowed. Spend the time exploring each others bodies and taking it slow, without the pressure of orgasming. If you MUST orgasm, feel free to self-pleasure BUT allow the tension to build between the erotic massage to the time of your next intimate encounter.

Tip #6: Do your Kegels.

A lot of people think that Kegel exercises are just for women, but that’s not the case. Studies have found that exercising your Kegel muscle offers a range of sexual benefits to both women and men and they can actually help in the treatment of several different types of sexual difficulties.

Tip #7: Get creative, cozy up and plan a reveal date.

Spend some time reflecting on your fantasies and plan a romantic date OUTSIDE of the bedroom to explore, in a safe and open way, through intimate communication.

Two ways you can share fantasies:

Start a fantasy box, where you are each responsible for filling each month and you go through them during your monthly reveal date. Educate yourself! Each of you should read an educational or inspiring erotic book and share what you learned during a reveal date. Better yet, read some together!

Tip #8: Get loud!

Research has found that people who make the most noise during sex tend to be the most satisfied. Why? Not only does moaning and groaning help convey what you like and what feels good, but it also signals appreciation for your partner’s efforts.

Tip #9: Foreplay 24–7.

Foreplay should begin immediately following your last encounter. Keep the desire flowing all the time!