Lessons in Fatherhood

Nobody could have prepared me for the feelings that would overtake me once I became a father. The intense emotions that I have experienced in such a short period of time have given me such a unique perspective on parenthood and life in general. I am sure that we all have preconceived notions about what being a parent will be like. We imagine the lessons that we will teach and the things we swear we would never do to or for our children, to make sure they are the best reflection of us. I learned pretty quickly that there is no one way to approach this, just the right way for your situation.

I expected that when my daughter arrived, she would be this perfect mix of my wife and I. I imagined her having mocha complexion, curly little locks, and a personality somewhere between my quiet optimism and the determined focus of my wife. The good Lord, it seems, cared nothing for my plans and gave us a spirited little lady who speaks at about a 9(out of 10), and loves being the center of attention. Her complexion was nowhere near the middle that I predicted, and she had blue eyes, the one thing that we thought we knew without a doubt would be brown.

As we prepare for the arrival of our second little lady, I definitely feel better prepared for all the unexpected moments that make fatherhood, and parenthood, special! Even as I say that, I know that the feeling of preparation is an illusion and all I can do is expect the unexpected. I wouldn’t have it any other way.