5 mindsets to live by to create the life you want for yourself

Pave your path to choose your destination.

When I was young, I wanted to be like Steve Jobs. Then when I attended high school, I wanted to be like Zuckerberg. When I came to college, I wanted to be like Elon Musk.

I aspired to become like them because I thought if I follow their paths and do what they did, I can be successful. I even had an unrealistic expectations of creating the next Facebook when I was 16 (who didn’t?).

But that’s the wrong mentality to live your life with and grow.

Success and happiness do not come from following an established path; it comes from understanding ourselves and paving our own path.

1. Path doesn’t matter as long you know what your destination is.

1. Define

We focus too much on obstacles and challenges that will slow us down. We give too much value to obstacles that we lose focus on what matters. We’re a generation chronically diagnosed with ADHD.

Rather, we need to focus on our destination because that’s the only thing that is absolute — the path is relative. It will change its shape and mold according to our circumstances, but our destination wouldn’t.

2. You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw rocks at every dog that barks.

2. Focus

Everyone has something to say about what you’re doing. People talked about me, good or bad, when I decided to escape from the prison of higher education.

But that shouldn’t bother you. That’s what people with small mind mentality do.

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. — Eleanor Roosevelt

Instead understand your why. Your purpose isn’t defined; you define it. Understand why you’re doing what you’re doing. Because in the end, it’s that why that will help you get to your destination.

3. Even if you fail, you still did better than those who were afraid of trying.

3. Persistence

Winning is idealized in our society. Because of that, no one ever wanted to lose growing up. However, it’s not the winning that allows us to succeed.

It was only when we failed that we realized we had a lot of growing up left to do. Because it’s only when we fail, we become the biggest critique of ourselves — it’s the failure that becomes the fuel to our fire.

Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war. — Donald Trump

Nothing is more common than a lazy smart person. At the end of the day, whether you were first or last in a race, you did 100% better than those who stayed on their couch watching Netflix, regardless if their IQ is 130 or 80.

4. Wake up early and start working on your goals before anyone even wakes up.

4. Rise

The amount of work that you could do by the time normal people wake up is astonishing. Normally, people wake up at 8 or 9. If you wake up at 5, that gives you 3–4 hours of work on your goals, whether that’s working on your business, developing an application, or writing.

Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise. — Benjamin Franklin

Consistency and discipline is hard, but once you have that under your belt, what you can accomplish is unfathomable.

5. Spend time and connect with the nature. Somehow it just knows what you need to do next.

5. Reflect

Burnouts are real. We tend to work all day on our goals, our work, but that computer needs to a new software update and needs to reboot. Spending time with nature for 15 minutes everyday has changed my life.

It’s like my daily meditation — I can stop thinking about what I’m doing and relax. It gives me time to reflect on what I’m working on and how I can improve. Some of the very interesting ideas and concepts have just pop right in my head when I’m outside watching trees move.

#PaveYourPath is a mindset, not rules or mottos to live by. The goal of #PaveYourPath isn’t to become the the next Steve Jobs or become a multi-millionaire.

It’s to build your character so you can become the first you. 💪

How do you #PaveYourPath? What are some of the mottos you live by that have impacted your life positively? Feel free to comment! :)