Why You Should Roll With The Winners
“Roll With The Winners”. It’s more than just one half a bar from Jay Z’s classic Dead Presidents II. It’s more than just a phrase you’ve probably seen associated with Paul Rivera and his close-knit circle. It’s more like a lifestyle. For some people it’s a mantra, and for others it’s a mindset. But what does it really mean and why should you adopt it?
It simply comes down to being around the right people, for the right reasons. The Roll With The Winners approach is about surrounding yourself with positive people who will uplift you, support you, challenge you, and ultimately make you a better version of yourself. Real winners surround themselves with other winners. They do it because they think differently. Their mindsets influence their actions and having a winner’s mindset can literally change your life. Here are some other key points to consider when thinking about why you should roll with the winners:
- Winners Make You Better
Personal relationships are very powerful. In my book 413 Ways, I make a few points about being mindful of who is in your circle. You become who you surround yourself with. That means that if you surround yourself with negative people, or people who are not making progress in life, you will be influenced whether you realize it or not. Similarly, if you surround yourself with people who are constantly improving themselves, making progress, and improving their lives, you will be influenced as well. The difference is that by spending your time talking to and hanging around winners, you pick up their habits, their knowledge, and their skills that make them a winner. You become a winner by association, and not by accident.
2. You Have Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain
When you surround yourself with people who have a winner’s mindset, all you can do is win. Winners tend to be open-minded, forward-thinking, creative, and always making progress in all areas of their life. If you want to do those things you have to think like the people who do those things. Once you have the mindset for growth, you can develop the skills and the habits to put your mindset into action. Real winners make sure their friends win by supporting them and challenging them. Support does not mean that they will say everything you do is great, but it means they will be honest with you and tell you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear. They will constantly challenge you to do better because you are a reflection of them.
3. It’s Free
It will not cost you anything but time and a decision to be around winners. You are already spending your time around people and making new friends and relationships anyway. All you have to do is make sure that the people you spend the most time with are people who add value to your life. Winners create value, and losers drain value. Be cognizant of who is in your life and remember: if they value you, they will add value to you. It doesn’t cost you a dime. However, if you don’t surround yourself with winners it will cost you dearly in the long run. You will miss out on opportunities because you didn’t have the mindset or the connections necessary to do better for yourself. You don’t ever want to run into that problem.
Whether choosing a life partner or a business partner, it is essential that you find yourself a winner who is a match. Finding a match does not mean finding someone who is exactly like you, but rather finding someone whose unique qualities complement your own. If you want to surround yourself with winners, do not just try and throw yourself into the circle of a group that is already established by having some ulterior motives. True friendships need to develop organically and naturally over time. Basically, do not attempt to force any friendship because that just won’t work. Instead, figure out how you can contribute to some winners that you might want to connect with and if a mutual respect develops, build on the relationship from there. Ultimately you just want to make sure that the people you interact with the most are inspiring you to improve yourself. If you can help them improve, and they can help you help yourself, you can’t lose.
- “Are the people in my life adding value?”
- “Do the people I spend the most time with have my best interest at heart? When was the last time they showed it?
- “Do I need to cut some people off or add some people to my circle in order to get where I need to go?”
- “Am I adding value or am I taking up space in my friends’ lives? Am I holding them back or helping them move forward? How am I showing them I support them?”
- “In order to be where I want to be, who do I need to be around, who do I need to become?”
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Originally published at kevinclaiborne.com.