Me, my girl and emotions!
For as long as I can remember I loved kids and infact for nearly 20 years I worked in a variety of childcare settings but with all that experience and 2 years of Nursery Nurse training NOTHING prepares you for becoming a parent!
When it came to the time of having kids though my husband and I struggled, in fact we ended up going down the fertility treatment route and for anyone that has been in that situation they will know it is not a easy journey. I’d also watched a close family member go through it numerous times so had seen the roller coaster we were about to go on. However we were one of the ‘lucky ones’ as our 1st attempt was successful and I made it through pregnancy without any major problems.
From the day you find out you are pregnant though right up to the day your child is born you worry and want the best for your child and I don’t believe that feeling ever goes or should go away!
My wee girl is now approaching 6 and is bright, funny and affectionate. She is also very determined, stubborn and sensitive all traits from myself unfortunately. This means on one hand that I understand her better but it also makes as clash as we both as my husband puts it “like the last word” and it also makes it hard to know the best way forward to help her! Growing up I was an extremely shy child and struggled with a lot of things as a result. So of course like many parents out there I want the best for my child and for them to grow up happy, confident and healthy.
My daughter is, as am I at the moment struggling with handling her emotions part of which I believe has come from her starting school, part of her normal development and partly just her nature. I have been looking at ways I may be able to help her and in particular more recently mindfulness. This is something new for us both but something I truly believe she could benefit from so as a starting point I recently bought her some CD’s from Relax Kids. They also run classes to help children manage a range of emotions and this is also something I will look into her doing although unfortunately at the moment there is not a spare time in our schedule to fit in a class.
So why am I sharing this with you? Well with Children's Mental Health Week having not long ended I wanted to:
1. Remind you all to spread some kindness and encourage your child to do the same.
2. No matter how trivial it may seem to you keep those lines of communication open so your child feels loved, trusted, understood, valued and safe.
3. Accept your child’s nature for who they are and don’t try to make them someone they are not.
4. Help them find a way through those hard times and if necessary get additional support and advice.
Remember your child’s emotional well-being is just as important as anyone else’s. You may wonder what they have to worry about but growing up isn’t always easy for anyone no matter what age you are. Parenting is tough and hard work and our children sure can test us but be kind to yourself and always let them know you are there for them.
Thanks for reading.