How to forgive your past and start living an incredible life.

You may have regrets from your past, but there is a way to start feeling better about yourself. It’s not easy, but you can do it with some self-reflection and time.

Forgiving your past is not something that you can do overnight. It takes time and patience to heal wounds, but it’s worth it in the end. No matter what has happened to make you feel like giving up on life, some people love you enough to help keep fighting for a better future with them by your side. Forgive yourself and allow yourself some time off from guilt trips. After all, you don’t want to spend another day holding on to grudges or regrets when they won’t do anything but hold you back from living an extraordinary life!

Below are six ways to get over your past and live a happy life:

Let’s dive in-

1. Spend time with people who make you happy (spend less time around negative people)

Spend time with friends who love you and who also care about your happiness. A hostile environment can affect your self-esteem badly by making you think negatively about yourself. Make room for positive influences in your life who appreciate you for being YOU! Allowing yourself to hang out with negative people can lead to a decline in your self-esteem and self-worth.

If you have been spending time around such people, start spending more time around positive friends who care about you and love you for who you are. You deserve to be surrounded by lovable, caring people who value you for the beautiful person you are!

2. Write down all the things you regret in your past

The past is a part of our lives, and we can’t escape it. We all make mistakes, but what matters most is how we deal with them now. Think and write down all the things you regret in your past, be it past mistakes or people who have hurt you.

Think of a way to resolve the bitter feelings, resentment, guilt, or shame that keeps you from feeling better about yourself. Write down steps to deal with the problem now that it has happened, and that way, it will be easier for you to deal with in the future.

3. How do you feel? They are a part of your past and can’t change anything about them anymore?

It may be hard to move on, but you can’t change your past. You can choose to forgive yourself for things that you regret now, though- they are in the past!

Making peace with your mistakes is not always easy, but forgiving yourself will help heal wounds and start letting go of regrets.

Forgiving others for hurting or offending you is easier said than done. Forgiveness has to come from within because we all have our personal views and opinions.

Psychologists tell us that self-forgiveness is one of the most critical ingredients in happiness and well-being. How we treat ourselves, even when we’re experiencing hard times, directly impacts our mental health and quality of life. When we don’t forgive, we stay stuck in negative thoughts and emotions — about ourselves or others — which make it more difficult for us to feel joy and connect with people who care about us.

Give yourself some time and practice to get used to practicing forgiveness! Find ways to do this: write out your feelings, meditate, play relaxing music, pray, have a cup of tea — whatever you need to do to find peace with yourself again!

It is crucial to think about what is essential in your life and start making it happen! Remember, happiness comes from within.

So, Forgive yourself and learn to move on; do not dwell on the past you cant change.

4. Find ways to forgive those who have hurt or offended you.

Forgiving people is one of the most challenging things you will do in your life, but it’s also arguably one of the best choices that will set your soul free from all types of guilt and negativity. Your simple action affects the rest of your life, now and in the future. Let go of thoughts that are holding you back from being the person that you want to be!

Being a forgiving person is loving yourself enough to let go of negative feelings that hold you back from living the life you want. Start by letting go of all resentment, bitterness, and anger. Everything happens for a reason- things don’t happen to you; they happen FOR you. Remember that life is a precious gift and that other people’s behavior is NOT your fault- it’s THEIRS!

5. Create a list of “30 days” goals — what would make each day an awesome one for YOU, not anyone else!

Start making your happiness a priority in your life by taking control over what matters most to you!

Write down a “30 days” goal — what would make each day an awesome one for yourself. Take things like saving money, getting out more, rewarding yourself for something good, etc., then write down a list for 30 days!

You can also start a habit journal where you write down different habits that you want to form every day, week, or month -

- write them down on a list

- review your goals every morning before you start the day.

- talk to yourself in the mirror about your goals for 30 days.

- make them achievable, make them tangible.

- reward yourself after each time you’ve achieved a goal on your list.

These goals will make your life an awesome one every day. Your happiness should come first! Live life YOUR way only because it is the best thing that YOU can ever do for yourself! Be true to your authentic self, don’t let others dictate who you are and who you aren’t anymore.

6. Live life on YOUR terms only — don’t live up to other people’s expectations!

Be true to yourself! If someone in your past has hurt you, think about why this person may have done so and take time off from any grudges you might hold against them. After all, no matter why they’ve said or done something mean-spirited, it’s time to start focusing on the good things in your life and create better relationships with others. Don’t allow others to control your life. Remember, you can’t please everyone- so focus on being happy.

Remember that it is okay to be who you are and feel good about yourself! Don’t let others think for you.

We need to love ourselves enough to acknowledge what doesn’t make us happy in our lives and make changes as soon as possible. That’s why forgiveness is one of the essential parts of starting over from nothing.


Self-forgiveness should be every person’s priority!

Not forgiving yourself for anything done in the past will only bring pain to the present. Once you have forgiven yourself for all your mistakes, you will realize how worthy, loved, and accepted you are no matter what you did in the past. So start forgiving yourself right away!

When someone is hurting or offending us, it’s easy to lash out at them instead of holding back our emotions.

If you want to live a happy life, remember that the most important thing is being “YOU”? This way, you can become your best self and have a genuinely fantastic time with everything in your life! Being authentic with oneself will lead to more incredible experiences with those around you. Start living YOUR truth now. Decide what we ALL need from each other: understanding, love, acceptance, empathy, just as people showed us when we went through tough times as kids. So once again, forgive yourself start loving someone else.

Forgive yourself and others because you are worthy of it! Trust that everything happens for a reason. In hindsight, you can’t know what that reason is, but try to see your pain as a signal- something positive will come out of it. Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for…so be patient! Remember this: forgive your past and start living a remarkable life!

Some people think they have to forgive someone else before they can even begin to work on themselves. Start by forgiving yourself first; THEN, let’s move on to forgiving other people.

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