Sarah — please pass this along to Bob:
Bob — you’re doing a great job with Sarah and I’m so glad that you are with her. She has forgotten, or maybe never known, what a good relationship can be — they really do exist. I can vouch for that — and I needed almost 40 years of “training” to be able to recognize the man I am married to as my “The One”. (And I don’t have as much travel luggage as Sarah is having to deal with…) But — and this is the important part — even if there never is a “man to be with me”, that’s okay too — because Sarah is enough, all by herself, to know who she is and what she wants. She doesn’t “NEED” a man. The glorious amazement is that she CAN CHOOSE to be in a relationship! No one else can make that choice but her — and if needs must, she can also choose to not have a relationship if it’s not feeling right to her.
We cannot change the past, but we can understand what happened and how that has affected us — and then decide if we’re going to stay with the old habits of that effect or if we’re going to choose a new, a better way to live so that we can feel better, whole, peaceful. Choices can be scary…but the really cool thing about them is that we can always change them.
Sarah, just the fact that you are writing this in a public forum shows how strong you really are, how responsible for your own well being you are … being. As I’ve said before, you’ve got this. You’re going to be successful because you are already succeeding. Hugs to you — and Bob and everyone else because there’s no such thing as too many hugs, or too much love!
Peace!