One of My Favourite Podcasts and the lessons I learned!

One of My Favourite Mindset Podcasts

if you haven’t already, I highly suggest to start listening to podcasts. There is an immense amount of free value available all at your fingertips on your phone. When I first discovered podcasts I genuinely thought they would cost just like buying a song from iTunes. My top 3 podcasts for health fitness and lifestyle are; The Tim Ferris Radio Show, London Real and of course Mindset with Muscle by Jamie Alderton. Today I’m going to briefly present to you one of the best episodes I’ve listened to! The S.U.C.C.E.S.S with Jamie Alderton based upon the book Psycho-cybernetics.

Within this book it primarily talks about bettering yourself and gaining an awareness of one’s self. One of the chapter’s reverse engineers what they deem as the SUCCESS personality, broken down with this acronym;

Sense of direction

Understanding

Courage

Compassion

Esteem

Self Confidence

Self-Acceptance

Throughout the podcast each part is broken down and made relevant, some of which you may already be aware of however, just because you know something doesn’t mean you apply it and often having someone else reiterate a fact can help solidify your beliefs and thus practice.

Sense of Direction: One part of the book uses the analogy that people are like a bike, that we are goal seeking machines. If a bike is still, it’s very wobbly and very unstable when moving forward it has constant momentum and is easier to balance. This is something that I have often found more recently my fitness goal was to drop down from 13 stone to 12stone, I did it however after this was achieved I became very lazy, the same thing happens whenever I finish my university exams I get confused with myself as I often don’t know what the next challenge is! Often once a milestone is achieved people can become un-motivated, a way to combat this is to write down multiple short term and long term goals and the higher value your reason is to complete the goal. Furthermore, interestingly some people may have a negative association with the word GOAL! If an individual has set out multiple “goals” in the past and not achieved them one will start to associate negative emotions with it, I see this a lot with people not setting a “new year’s resolution” however a trick is to reword this use the word project or achievement instead- see if it helps! Don’t Fall Off the Bike haha!

Understanding: This highly depends upon communication, a lot of problems tend to arise from miscommunication! A lot of people assume everyone will draw the same conclusions given the same facts however this is not always the case. For example; Someone posts a transformation pick and a bunch of people think well done but there’s sometimes that one or two people that are saying what an ass posting a transformation pic for attention. These conclusions tend to be drawn from one’s previous experiences and current environment. People often form opinions around facts. For example, two people are whispering and when you approach them they stop whispering the first thought is they are talking about you and they are being negative. However, this is an assumption they may have a complete logical reason for whispering. Another example is when you message a friend and they don’t reply to you for a day or two and you think motherfucker not replying to me again, but you who knows they may off have lost their phone but the conclusion tends to be they are being rude. This often happens people get the facts draw up opinions and create a conclusion can even get extremely aggravated by this. I often fall into this however when I observe this I may no longer be triggered and will realize the thought process may somewhat be illogical. Another example is when faced with ambiguity when asking someone for help, it doesn’t mean they won’t help you it probably just means they are too busy to help just now. A more common one is when a driver cuts infront of your lane, then the road rage kicks in but however how do you not know they have an emergency such as a pregnant wife going into labour! Developing this further understanding surrounds around drawing up facts and trying to see situations from multiple points of view.

Courage, it takes courage to act upon a goal and solve a problem. Only with action can you solve problems, have a voice and do the things that matter. There’s a quote within that book that says “touch a thistle timidly and it stabs you, touch it boldly and it will crumble”- I don’t suggest going about grabbing thistles but you get the drift… Often what differentiates people who you think are successful is courage, the ability to take a calculated risk and act upon it! Something I heard recently If you put me and Michael Jordan on a basketball court I’m aloud to shoot and he isn’t, who will score the most points? Me or one of the greatest basketball players ever? Note courage induces action! If everyone waits until the perfect moment for something it will never happen! Failing is not a bad thing, it’s necessary for learning, it’s like cycling the bike in the wrong direction and then turning around!

Compassion. This is something I’m only recently getting more aware of. For example, you see someone complaining or trolling about another person. Usually this is because that individual is coming from a place of pain with compassion you can foresee this. An interesting quote is “it is a mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it”. People have different perceptions of the world and have different views, some people like to be vegan some people like to work 100 hours a week, some people like to work 10. A lot of people feel a need to prevent themselves from losing this identity. For example, someone who doesn’t like the gym might laugh at those who got to the gym 5 days a week or those who are scared of going over to the free weights section and they just see this negative side of it with intimidating muscular foke, however some of the foke I’ve met there are the most genuine nicest foke I’ve ever met, with compassion you can see it from both points of view and not get defensive when the next person trolls you for being a gym rat!

Esteem a lot of jealousy can be caused by a lack of esteem. For example, when you see a bodybuilder the first thought might be steroids and try bring them down. However, there is a paradox here, if you start to appreciate the worth of other people you will appreciate the worth of yourself more! Another cheesy quote “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms!” Jamie also mentions this picture; it fires me up!

Self-Confidence, confidence is built upon an experience of success. For example, doing your first ever set of exams or playing your first ever football game you are probably very unconfident. With doing these things time and time again you become more confident in yourself. A cool trick when taking on a brand new challenge that you are unconfident about is to remember past successes and set some related small wins, for example getting healthier try drink three litres of water a day and tick it off as a success, this will increase your momentum and will increase your confidence! I see this in children a lot, when a child is told they have done poorly in a test, this reduced their confidence and often they no longer want to learn that topic as they have never felt successful within it, which all makes so much sense now!

Self-acceptance Jamie here states his true success has come from relaxing and being himself. All due to self-acceptance allowing themselves to admit their strengths and weaknesses alike. However just because you accept something doesn’t mean it can’t be changed for example if you are overweight there doesn’t have to be the belief you are always going to be overweight but if you accept it you can begin to change it. He then further states the first step to acquiring knowledge is the recognition of the areas where you are ignorant. I do this a lot when revising for exams Ill ignore my weak areas and just say it won’t come up in the exam instead of actually admitting I need to get better at that topic. Often to notice this I do need negative feedback to become aware of it and know what to focus on, I tend to rely on friends to tell me if I’ve written a shit essay etc. People tend to think self-acceptance will become with a certain achievement rather than accepting their actual self, there will never be a time where you will think yeah that will do there will always be a “better” version of one’s self. Understand they actual self will always be imperfect; everyone is pigeonholed and imperfect one way or another. Ever heard of the number of people who have won the lottery but are depressed? Its higher than you will think. Understand that everyone has problems and struggles you are probably not the only person out of the 7.2 billion people with those problems.

Sense of Direction: One part of the book uses the analogy that people are like a bike, that we are goal seeking machines. If a bike is still, it’s very wobbly and very unstable when moving forward it has constant momentum and is easier to balance. This is something that I have often found more recently my fitness goal was to drop down from 13 stone to 12stone, I did it however after this was achieved I became very lazy, the same thing happens whenever I finish my university exams I get confused with myself as I often don’t know what the next challenge is! Often once a milestone is achieved people can become un-motivated, a way to combat this is to write down multiple short term and long term goals and the higher value your reason is to complete the goal. Furthermore, interestingly some people may have a negative association with the word GOAL! If an individual has set out multiple “goals” in the past and not achieved them one will start to associate negative emotions with it, I see this a lot with people not setting a “new year’s resolution” however a trick is to reword this use the word project or achievement instead- see if it helps! Don’t Fall Off the Bike haha!

Understanding: This highly depends upon communication, a lot of problems tend to arise from miscommunication! A lot of people assume everyone will draw the same conclusions given the same facts however this is not always the case. For example; Someone posts a transformation pick and a bunch of people think well done but there’s sometimes that one or two people that are saying what an ass posting a transformation pic for attention. These conclusions tend to be drawn from one’s previous experiences and current environment. People often form opinions around facts. For example, two people are whispering and when you approach them they stop whispering the first thought is they are talking about you and they are being negative. However, this is an assumption they may have a complete logical reason for whispering. Another example is when you message a friend and they don’t reply to you for a day or two and you think motherfucker not replying to me again, but you who knows they may off have lost their phone but the conclusion tends to be they are being rude. This often happens people get the facts draw up opinions and create a conclusion can even get extremely aggravated by this. I often fall into this however when I observe this I may no longer be triggered and will realize the thought process may somewhat be illogical. Another example is when faced with ambiguity when asking someone for help, it doesn’t mean they won’t help you it probably just means they are too busy to help just now. A more common one is when a driver cuts infront of your lane, then the road rage kicks in but however how do you not know they have an emergency such as a pregnant wife going into labour! Developing this further understanding surrounds around drawing up facts and trying to see situations from multiple points of view.

Courage, it takes courage to act upon a goal and solve a problem. Only with action can you solve problems, have a voice and do the things that matter. There’s a quote within that book that says “touch a thistle timidly and it stabs you, touch it boldly and it will crumble”- I don’t suggest going about grabbing thistles but you get the drift… Often what differentiates people who you think are successful is courage, the ability to take a calculated risk and act upon it! Something I heard recently If you put me and Michael Jordan on a basketball court I’m aloud to shoot and he isn’t, who will score the most points? Me or one of the greatest basketball players ever? Note courage induces action! If everyone waits until the perfect moment for something it will never happen! Failing is not a bad thing, it’s necessary for learning, it’s like cycling the bike in the wrong direction and then turning around!

Compassion. This is something I’m only recently getting more aware of. For example, you see someone complaining or trolling about another person. Usually this is because that individual is coming from a place of pain with compassion you can foresee this. An interesting quote is “it is a mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it”. People have different perceptions of the world and have different views, some people like to be vegan some people like to work 100 hours a week, some people like to work 10. A lot of people feel a need to prevent themselves from losing this identity. For example, someone who doesn’t like the gym might laugh at those who got to the gym 5 days a week or those who are scared of going over to the free weights section and they just see this negative side of it with intimidating muscular foke, however some of the foke I’ve met there are the most genuine nicest foke I’ve ever met, with compassion you can see it from both points of view and not get defensive when the next person trolls you for being a gym rat!

Esteem a lot of jealousy can be caused by a lack of esteem. For example, when you see a bodybuilder the first thought might be steroids and try bring them down. However, there is a paradox here, if you start to appreciate the worth of other people you will appreciate the worth of yourself more! Another cheesy quote “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms!” Jamie also mentions this picture; it fires me up!

Self-Confidence, confidence is built upon an experience of success. For example, doing your first ever set of exams or playing your first ever football game you are probably very unconfident. With doing these things time and time again you become more confident in yourself. A cool trick when taking on a brand new challenge that you are unconfident about is to remember past successes and set some related small wins, for example getting healthier try drink three litres of water a day and tick it off as a success, this will increase your momentum and will increase your confidence! I see this in children a lot, when a child is told they have done poorly in a test, this reduced their confidence and often they no longer want to learn that topic as they have never felt successful within it, which all makes so much sense now!

Self-acceptance Jamie here states his true success has come from relaxing and being himself. All due to self-acceptance allowing themselves to admit their strengths and weaknesses alike. However just because you accept something doesn’t mean it can’t be changed for example if you are overweight there doesn’t have to be the belief you are always going to be overweight but if you accept it you can begin to change it. He then further states the first step to acquiring knowledge is the recognition of the areas where you are ignorant. I do this a lot when revising for exams Ill ignore my weak areas and just say it won’t come up in the exam instead of actually admitting I need to get better at that topic. Often to notice this I do need negative feedback to become aware of it and know what to focus on, I tend to rely on friends to tell me if I’ve written a shit essay etc. People tend to think self-acceptance will become with a certain achievement rather than accepting their actual self, there will never be a time where you will think yeah that will do there will always be a “better” version of one’s self. Understand they actual self will always be imperfect; everyone is pigeonholed and imperfect one way or another. Ever heard of the number of people who have won the lottery but are depressed? Its higher than you will think. Understand that everyone has problems and struggles you are probably not the only person out of the 7.2 billion people with those problems.

I hope you have enjoyed this one and head over and listen to some podcast, the podcast definitely sent insights to me! I found this podcast rather thought provoking and has definitely raised my awareness on certain areas. I look forward to putting out more posts, probably more light-hearted than this one!


Originally published at www.krislintonreid.com.