How people like things
Recently, I’ve shown a video of a funny guy presenting different style of fashion in a mocking way to my wife. That guy made me laugh the way he was doing things, so easy and light was his presentation, no hesitation in choosing the right word for it, elegant gestures and funny jokes.
For which, my wife noticed: “These videos are nonsense. You like it just because that guy reminds you yourself”…
And when I thought about it, I realized it was true. He looked like me 10 years ago — energetic, athletic, no care for what others say about you, enjoying the life of a fun. Then I noticed that in our last trip to Sydney, when we visited Kandinsky’s exhibition in Art Gallery of NSW, I took many pictures, but never came back to them except for one picture — a statue of Apolon fighting a snake.
It found reflection in me instantly. It was a metaphoric representation of my everyday life, plus his sight and muscles, posture and whiteness of the marble made me admire.
I don’t know why I do it this way, but it is natural for me. Maybe I lost myself somewhere long time ago and now keep trying to find bits and peaces in others. I thought if I mostly like things that remind me of myself (kind of selfish nature of a soul) then other people in general like things in their own way.
I analyzed that thought and started to think about other people. My best friend is a programmer, to the bones intellectual and critical in his way to find a truth. If you ask what is the way he like things, the answer would be — when things are complicated. His relationship — always picked complicated one s— unconquerable girls, from another country and language and class. His job is complicated — programming, and if you never learned those languages you should try to see how hard it is. We studied at the same Uni in pursuit to be chemists, and amongst all chemistries on the course brake-point when you need to choose direction of your study, I chose computer chemistry ( the easiest) and he chose molecular/physical chemistry (obviously the hardest). It was not because he wanted to prove something, or challenged himself — this is just because it’s the way he like things.
My wife… She likes things esthetically and delicate. Not delicate and esthetic things but like things in delicate and esthetic way. She can wake up in 5 am in the morning (despite she starts work at 9 am), just to make a cup of coffee and spend 30 minutes in our back yard on the couch with the cat and a book, maybe not even for the sake of reading, but to enjoy this esthetically delicate moment of the sun rays coming through the morning fog and birds songs, echoing in the distance. She wants to witness the beginning of the beginning…
This statement is kind of corresponding with education. If you are a teacher you would agree that an individual approach to the student lays over understanding of one’s way of preferences or one’s nature. In other words, the way one likes things.
It would be a big advantage to use it in upbringing of a kid — if you find the way your child likes things, it would be easier to correct behavior, explain the world and teach truth…
By the way, if you are in Sydney, try to visit Kandinsky’s exhibition in Art Gallery of NSW — it will get you through the life of an artist and the way he liked things.
I don’t think I have expressed myself clear and delivered my thought in the way it appears in my head. But maybe it will generate some other thought in you with similar nature.