The Unsettled, Unsettling Question of First Date Finances
Holly Black

I do believe that the instigator should offer to pay for the date, but that going dutch is better, so I always offer to pay half when asked on a date. That being said, if a man insists on paying, I do figure that the gender-pay gap will make us even in the end. Honestly, dating is supposed to be fun, and whether or not a man pays isn’t the best indication of misogyny or lack of care or whatever else the presence or absence of that gesture is supposed to mean. I’d rather have more information about a man before I make any big judgements about him, and in the meantime, I’m going to offer to pay what’s fair on my part and focus on what really matters: whether or not I generally enjoy the company of my date.

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