If you don’t know what it feels like to personally experience racial trauma — stop policing our responses to it. Listen. Don’t lecture. Practice compassion. Practice reflection without commentary. If my anger, bitterness, or sorrow makes you uncomfortable, focus on what you can do to help heal the social issues which contribute — and I’ll focus on healing myself.
e to fe… to change what’s making me mad — it’s still a perfectly natural reaction to what I’ve experienced. What does shaming me for feeling do? Your discomfort with witnessing my pain doesn’t give you any right to tell me to feel less.