Thank you for sharing this. In my own life, I am the mom. My story is similar to your mother’s. A series of unfortunate events has hampered my ability to become all I could have. Some things were my fault as a result of choices I made, other things truly did “happen” to me. They were written into my genetic code and bound to happen.
I can only hope that one day my son, who is only 17 now, can look at me and have as much insight and feel as much empathy for me as you do for your mom. Like your mom, I’ve never stopped trying. Because really, what else can you do? And I’ve always put my son first and made sure if I couldn’t take care of him, he had someone (my parents) to turn to and care for him.
As a mom, I’d like for you to know that if you can express your feelings to your mother, how proud you feel, and that you understand her, please do so. Please tell her. I can assure you it will mean the world to her. And maybe help her realize all her efforts are not in vain.