WHAT IS IT?
DISCLAIMER: This is not a current circumstance. Simpy speaking.
Could it be because of the lack of consistency you were once shown that made you so easily gravitate to someone else? Allow me to give some perspectives:
I was taught by empirical observations that what you don’t do, there is ALWAYS someone some where that will. I prefer to believe that after you give your all to something and it’s not reciprocated, you become confused and could possibly enter a state of depression or develop a case of low self esteem. This, amongst many other things, can very well be due to recurrences of rejections and again lack of consistencies. I’m an individual that loves hard. I couldn’t careless about how anyone views me especially if it’s negative. Personally, I have never cared about someone’s past, because what was done prior to me I have no control over.
I’m sure the first paragraph some are like “ What the hell does that have to do with anything pertaining to the title?” Continue reading.
Women, understand this: Men do have feelings (some may be better at suppressing better than others). Once a woman hurts a man who is sincerely in love with them, that man thereafter resort to a defense mechanism as “Acting Out”; however, his acting out, in this instance, may not necessarily mean become bellicose and/or loud. His reaction to it may in fact becoming promiscuous. Ladies, when you hear a man refer to you a “Bitch”, “Whore (Hoe)” etc, either one of two things: He grew up around men using that term in reference to woman, or he desires for you to be submissive while simultaneously increasing his self esteem because he could be insecure.
Now to the men, women are to be treated with the utmost respect. I’m aware that some of you were never taught to be respectful to woman and what you do is natural. Allow me to ask this. After saying that, does a little voice go off in your mind saying “That ain’t right.”? If your response to that was “No.”, my associate you must get around some men that you were never around growing up. Those kind of men may be exactly what you need to be around before it’s too late. Women are not to be objectified as some “sex slave”. Whether you are married or just in a relationship, she STILL deserves to be treated with kind of respect reassures her that you respect her and would do anything for her to be satisfied. It’s not about what you feel, it’s about making the woman be pleased.
In the case that either gender is dealing with insecurities, I suggest that you get yourself together prior to getting in a relationship with anyone. You don’t have a relationship with yourself so exactly how does that work? I’m asking for an associate (Lol) That last statement was a joke but seriously. The golden query here is ‘What Is It?’
What is it that you really want in a relationship or what is that you desire from the opposite sex? Life would be so much more simple and emotions wouldn’t be tainted if people were to simply be “real” and tell the opposite person what they want. If you desire someone because you can’t see the remainder of your life without them, eventually tell them that. If you only want someone that you have get off casually, say that-at least you would be honest. I’m well aware that everyone doesn’t view things as I; however, people say they want the “real”, yet rarely express it when it comes to things likeso.
For all of the singles who are dating or simply talking to someone, bare in mind your true objective and tell them what you desire. If you don’t know right now what you desire from them, just go with the flow. Catching my drift? Probe who they are if you are seeking something long-term. Don’t become too personal, if possible with them if you only want their vagina/penis once a month. Unless asked to do so, I won’t give my opinion about marriage other than it is tradition.
Let’s be honest, most African American women refuse to be submissive to a man’s authority albeit it’s biblical that they should. This may seem harsh but it from my understanding it’s essentially trivial about a decision in a household when the man has made his decision. I prefer a different stance because I don’t know everything but whatever. That “marriage” you were thinking about, based on what I just mentioned and doing your own research, will you still consider marriage or rather a “commitment ceremony”?
Again I asked, “What Is It?” Don’t waste their time. I would say don’t waste yours, but it’s pointless because you may not even realize what you’re doing.
Until a later time my associates…
