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Asking for support is an act of resistance. Author Elayne Fluker’s new book offers help to “unapologetically ambitious women.”

Author Elayne Fluker thinks you should consider saying “yes,” the next time someone asks if you need help. Image: Mecca Gamble

“If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” It’s a widely shared proverb of questionable origins (though most attribute it to the continent of Africa), but for author, entrepreneur and podcast host Elayne Fluker, it’s a way of life.

Once again racism rears its ugly head when it comes to Meghan Markle, Prince Harry, and their kids

Meghan Markle in 2020. Photo: Getty Images

What’s in a name? Apparently a lot when it comes to royal babies. After Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex, announced they were pregnant with a girl during that infamous Oprah interview, speculation began over both the name and the due date.

Allegations of bullying levied at Markle remind us that our character will be attacked by folks uncomfortable with our existence

Meghan Markle attends the Commonwealth Day Service 2020 at Westminster Abbey on March 9, 2020 in London, England. Photo: Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images

I’ll never forget the time a former manager, an older White woman, remarked how I wasn’t my usual “peppy self” and hadn’t been smiling as much. Now mind you, this was shortly after the 2016 presidential election, so there wasn’t exactly much to smile about.

The singer-actress reflects on its fandom for the 20th anniversary

“A Diva’s Christmas Carol.” Photo: VH1/Paramount

Vanessa Williams knows how to play a diva. Before she starred as the formidable Wilhelmina Slater in Ugly Betty, the award-winning singer and actress brought international pop sensation Ebony Scrooge to life in the made-for-TV movie, A Diva’s Christmas Carol.

Plus, how to muster up the tears if you’re a little too used to bottling up emotions

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Back in July, Brooklyn-based novelist Andrea Bartz started to notice hives on her back and hip.


How the Feeling Wheel has helped me navigate my emotions during a pandemic

A person pointing to a feelings wheel.
A person pointing to a feelings wheel.
Illustration: Kate Dehler

“How does that make you feel?” is probably the question most associated with therapy. It’s meant to help people connect with their feelings, but sometimes it can be hard to adequately express emotions. I should know — my therapist calls me out on this on a regular basis. We were discussing my relationship with close family members when my therapist asked how a particular situation made me feel.

What are epidemiologists, virologists, and doctors putting on their (and their families’) faces in day-to-day life?

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As masks have become as critical to people’s daily routines as brushing their teeth and grabbing their keys — per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “cloth face coverings are a critical tool in the fight against Covid-19” — it’s also become clear that not all masks are created equal. And with so many options hitting the market, it can be hard to decide what kind to buy and wear, especially since masks that are excellent for one activity can be uncomfortable for others. Here’s what coronavirus experts are wearing in their own lives.

For all-day use: A comfortable cloth or surgical mask (and possibly a few of them)

“I wear a cloth or…

Debut author Kim Johnson’s new novel grapples with the criminal justice system and being Black in America

A headshot portrait of Kim Johnson.
A headshot portrait of Kim Johnson.
Kim Johnson. Photo: JBoy Photography

When Kim Johnson was writing This Is My America back in 2015, there’s no way she could have predicted her debut YA novel about racial justice and America’s judicial system would be so relevant. And yet, the novel, which is set against the backdrop of Black Lives Matter, could easily have been written today.

Home to more than 7,000 members worldwide, this at-home cycling group is all about sisterhood and accountability

A photo of Teresia Greer and her Peloton bike in her living room. “Life is short, do stuff that matters” is on her wall.
A photo of Teresia Greer and her Peloton bike in her living room. “Life is short, do stuff that matters” is on her wall.
Teresia Greer and her Peloton bike. Photos courtesy of Teresia.

In 2017, Courtney Snowden was pregnant with her younger son and thought she’d never see the inside of a gym again. A single mom by choice, she was juggling a demanding job as a deputy mayor for the District of Columbia and was unsure how a regular workout routine would fit into her already hectic schedule.

Doing It My Way

America’s favorite auntie and social media influencer is shining her light in an otherwise bleak world

A photo of Tabitha Brown posing with peace signs.
A photo of Tabitha Brown posing with peace signs.
Tabitha Brown. Photos: Luc-Richard

You wouldn’t necessarily know it by scrolling social media, but African Americans make up the largest demographic of vegans in the United States, at 8% of all African American adults, according to a Pew Research Center study.

L'Oreal Thompson Payton

L’Oreal is a freelance writer and editor who’s dedicated to uplifting and inspiring Black women and girls through storytelling. Learn more at LTintheCity.com.

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