Big hair

When I was a senior in high school, of all the awards issued, I won for ‘best hair’ — thanks to my ethnicity which attributed to my thick curly black hair. I didn’t get ‘most likely to succeed’, but I didn’t care. I don’t want to brag but I knew I was going to win cause ever since freshman year, everyone always told me my hair was bad which I later found out meant ‘the coolest’.

After I graduated, I discovered the phenomenon of the relaxer treatment from my mom’s hair stylist. I was slowly getting tired of my unruly curls and decided to try it. Right away I was hooked — it made it much easier to blow dry my hair which became a preference for me. For the next 15 years, this would become my routine. Whenever my new growth reached two inches, I would relax the roots thus enabling me to straighten my hair at my leisure. There would eventually come a time when all I did was flat iron my hair, once the ceramic versions became popular. And suddenly, no one knew I had natural curly hair anymore.

About four years ago, I decided to grow out my relaxed hair. It was a long process that tested my patience, so much that at times, I contemplated reverting. I am glad I stuck to my guns because towards the end of growing my relaxed locks out, big hair slowly began to emerge into the fashion scene. The last time I saw one of my stylist friends, she rambled on about how frizzy hair was becoming cool now. That’s when I decided I wanted to changed my hair cut. I have always had, for most of my life, hair styles that had a middle split and layered curls that leaned more towards laying conservatively past my shoulders. But I am SO BORED. After trying my hand at being blonde, I’ve decided I needed a new look and desire a softer brown hue back on my locks.

My appointments are booked for a cut in late May and a color in early June. I am a little nervous, I like being in my comfort zone, but I know deep down inside that overcoming my fear of change will make me feel more confident. It’s what I need most now and I can barely wait for the changes to take place.

I was born with big hair, so I want to embrace it. What’s cool about my texture is that I can still choose to straighten it whenever I want. But the truth is I have to wear it the way it was meant to be most of the time if I want to maintain healthy locks.

I will keep you posted. For now, I will leave you with the cut that I am anticipating. I hope that by sharing my journey, I can encourage anyone else who’s been contemplating change to dive right in. If I can do, so can you.

Wanna rock out these bangs…stay tuned
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