Congratulation on your sobriety! I personally do not drink. I tried to, occasionally, but it really was not my thing so I just stopped altogether. Btw I am a planner too a.k.a a perfectionist. I have to know how things will go. I make sure that things go to plan. And that results in me overthinking things. Then I get frustrated when it doesn’t happen when & how it is supposed to happen. And then the disappointment kicks in… But I am learning to let things happen. I’m learning to not plan things anymore. I’m learning to be free. It is hard sometimes, when you are a perfectionist and you want to have your hands on every little details. But ultimately I know that I am and will be happier if I loosen up my grip on things.