photo by Felix Kayser

Don’t let your family hold you back, and go chase that dream of yours!

Ohana means family.

Family, what an interesting thing. Family are the ones that are supposed to love you and support you no matter what, right? But they can also be the ones that give you such a hard time. Some people call it tough Love. But is it really?

Sometimes I know that my family members tell me certain things because they want me to be careful or they are scared for me. But sometimes I wonder, are they really scared for me or are they scared to have a daughter that fails?

For instance, when I was little, I actually did not want to go to university after high school. I wanted to go to a dance school to pursue my love for dancing. But my mother basically told me that I was not good enough to go to a proper dance school because to her I did not know how to dance properley as I never took proper lessons as many of the dancers from the dance school would have. The truth is that, I am actually a self-taught. And the funny thing is that now that I am older, I sometimes dance at parties (when I’m not shy) and people come up to me and compliment me on my dancing. Most of the time people think that I’ve been dancing my whole life, which is actually true, but they actually think that I took dance classes all my life which obviously was not the case as I actually taught myself most of what I know.

Another example would be my online career. I had told my parents that I posted dance videos online and that some celebrities might have seen some of my videos. And my parents know that I am very interested at everything that has to do with videos such as filmmaking, dance videos, covers, music videos etc… But they’ve never thought much of it. People just assume that this is a past-time for me and that I am just being silly and that I just want fame. Which couldn’t be more farther away from the truth. Fame is for crazy people, only crazy people only want fame. And they’re in for a whole lot of trouble…

But the reason why I am so interested in what I do now, which is being an online content creator is because it suits me. It suits the kind of person that I am. It suits my interests. And I simply love it! I can do all of the things that I love doing in just one place (i.e singing, dancing, writing, photography, filmmaking, acting, editing etc…) and I am my own boss which is a bonus!

What I am trying to say is that it’s definitely nice to know that people that are close to you are worried about you. But sometimes they don’t realize that their “worry” sometimes does more bad than good. It just makes you doubt yourself, it makes you self-conscious about yourself and worst of all it makes you want to just give up on yourself.

I wouldn’t change anything from my past. I believe that everything happens for a reason so I am actually thankful for everything that happened, the good and the bad. But even if I wouldn’t change anything that doesn’t change the fact that it would have been nice to have people supporting me/believing in me more. Or at least that tried to understand me more.

That is all we, us humans, want, to be understood. You don’t have to agree with me or love me but try to understand me. Try to understand where I’m coming from. Try to be interested in what I want to do and what I can do. Try to support me even if I am not the best at everything! Nobody is the best at anything! Everyone starts by being bad at something. But trust that I can become good at something and trust that I actually want to be good at that certain thing. That is all we ask for: trust and support. Things might go terribly wrong, or things might go extremely good but we will never know if we don’t let each other chase our dreams. Everyone is scared but that is not a good enough reason to not go for it!

Everyone at some point has to go do their own thing. And whatever you decide to do, there is always going to be someone that won’t approve. And sometimes that person might be in your own family or a very close friend of yours. But I think that you are the only one who truly knows what YOU want to do and what is good for you. Sure, sometimes it can happen that other people know you better than you know yourself. But the thing is that, people cannot actually feel what you feel deep inside. And if there is something telling you that you should chase this dream or that dream then I think that you should definitely do that! Even if your family doesn’t want you to or they’re scared or they criticize your choices. You have to find out for yourself. And you have to work hard for your own dreams!

You really can achieve anything in life if you just put a lot of hard work and dedication onto it! So do not listen to anyone that tries to discourage you from doing what YOU want to do.

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