“What do you want to be?” — Choose only one option below.

  • A doctor
  • A writer
  • A cook
  • A singer
  • A businessman/woman
  • A carer
  • A traveler
  • A scientist
  • An astronaut

etc…

You can only choose one and one only. And you also HAVE to know which one you’ll choose.


I was asked this very frustrating question by someone: “Yeah, but what do you want to be? An artist? A dancer? What is it?” As if the person was pressuring me to choose. As if I had to pick one thing and one thing only.

Let me tell you why I don’t like this question and why I like it even less when I am pressured to make just ONE choice.

We live in a society where you HAVE to choose just one option. — Which is ridiculous!

You cannot be multiple things. You cannot do multiple things. You cannot be interested in multiple things. And most importantly the things that you’re interested in have to have something in common with each other.

Someone also asked me this:

“If you’re interested in art and filmmaking then why do you want to take care of children? There’s no link between those interests.” (For those of you who don’t know, I’m planning on being an au pair. And I’ve actually taken care of more than a dozen of children.)

And my response to that person was:

“Well, first of all, I love taking care of children. I’ve been doing that my whole life and that’s just something that I’m comfortable doing. And second, I am a creative person who is interested in drawing, singing, dancing, writing, filmmaking, photography etc… which I think is linked to children. Because, to take care of children you have to be creative. And you also have to be a kid at heart, which I am.”

I just find it frustrating that I have to justify myself and explain why I’m interested in all those different things that may or may not have anything in common with each other. And I also find it frustrating that some people expect me to chose just ONE interest! I love all of them! It is like asking someone “who do you prefer, your mom or your dad?” — That’s ridiculous! How and why would you expect someone to choose?

It is also unfair because I don’t want to be known as just ONE thing. I don’t want people to be like “oh Lalaina? Yeah she was a good dancer!” — No, I’m not JUST a dancer. I have other interests and I want to share them all with the world. And I want to be able to experience with all of my interests. I don’t want to be restricted into being just one thing and one thing only.

- Why is it that we pressure people to know which one it’s going to be? Why can’t I do/be all of those things?

It’s my life, and I choose not to choose. And if you cannot understand this then that’s ok. But don’t pressure me to make a decision. Because my decision has been made. I am an artist. I am a dancer. I am a singer. I am a writer. I am a child carer. I am a drawer. I am a filmmaker. I am all of the above. And that is what I choose to be. I don’t even think that I chose to be all of that, that is just what I am. I am all that. And those things are all a part of me. And I refuse to chose to be just one part of me. I choose to acknowledge all the different parts of me and I choose to be all the different parts of me.

Photos by (left to right) Ron S ; Nick Karvounis ; Álvaro Serrano
photos by (left to right) Kit Junglist ; London Scout

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