You Don’t Have To Tell Us Your Story

Unless You Actually Want To

Lauren Evans
Apr 20, 2018 · 3 min read
Photo by Redd Angelo on Unsplash

There’s a lot of hoo-ha about telling your story on the internet. Recently I read a joke tweet that said something along the lines of:

Some personal shit that people write about/tweet about online should be saved for their therapist.

And I thought;

“Do I share too much?”

On my blog I talk about my mental health, my sexuality, and my recent motherhood. I have spilled my guts onto the keyboard because that is what I like doing. I like telling my story, warts and all, because it helps me process how I am feeling or how I have felt. It also makes me feel like I might be helping somebody else who has been or is going through something similar.

It does however leave me feeling a little naked and exposed — but that is the price you pay I suppose for letting the world in (not that I get the stats on a global scale, but you know what I mean).

I know a couple of bloggers that keep themselves anonymous, which is cool. I’ve tried doing that a few times (it never lasted long).

Even though I’m completely for people telling their stories online, for really getting into the emotional labours that they have been through - the pain, the happiness, the overall life shit — I am also supportive of those who do not wish to do all that.

If you have a story that you want to tell, then tell it.

Tell it however you like — the internet has created so many different mediums (wink) for every person who has access, so you can tell your story in whichever way you fancy.

But also remember; you don’t have to share everything if you don’t want to.

It’s not an all or nothing game. You can leave some bits out or not say anything all together. It depends on you — it is your choice. Do not feel pressured to tell your story. It’s your story to do what you want with.

I read another tweet recently that talked about how Instagram is perceived and criticised by those who use it. People are saying how Instagram is just a portion of somebody’s life, it’s just the good bits that they want to show you. And yeah, most of the time that is true. And just like this tweet said, think about it like your mum’s photo albums. She didn’t take photos of you screaming in the middle of Sainsbury’s because you wanted more than one chocolate bar, or of herself and your dad arguing over taking out the trash. Photo albums are full of just the good stuff, because that is what people want to show others, that is what we want to remember. They are reminders of the bits of life that we want to remember.

I think the same can be said for social media. Sure, some people use it as a way to get a tonne of likes and followers (who doesn’t? I mean, in all honesty, most of us would love more likes and followers), but mostly, we like posting those lovely photos with the lovely filters on, and looking back on them to remember those lovely moments of the lovely photos with the lovely filters on.

Sharing your story is a similar thing. We can share the good bits (if we want to) or we can share the bad bits (if we want to), or both (you guessed it — if we want to).

You can let people get to know you or not, it’s up to you. Your online presence is something you can control, in regards to what you tell the world about yourself. It’s something you can own. It’s something you already do own.

So share or don’t share. Use the internet to reveal yourself, find yourself or get to know yourself. It’s really up to you.

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