I understand why people hate this, but it’s true. I’m a costume designer, I look at this point from a completely different perspective. It’s my job to help define a character through their appearance. As much as we’d like to, we can’t change the collective associations that come along with particular looks or clothing items, i.e. a bow tie or a sweater vest.
Once you think about your appearance as sending a message to the outside world, whether you intend to or not, you can decide what kind of message you want to send.Some people have a naturally great sense of style and enjoy creating their message, others, not so much. I just finished working on a play in which one character says “You can’t wash plaid. It’s its own kind of filth. It’s a statement saying , I want you to know I care about not caring.” While I don’t necessarily agree with that statement, I sure can appreciate the sentiment. Plus, the way the actor delivered that line was funny as hell.