
One Simple Move Helps You Save Your Life
For the past few years he’s been living a quieter life. He moved to Montana, out of the public spotlight to enjoy a more private and simpler life. But he never stopped making music.
He hit the road with members of The Grateful Dead to be a part of the Dead & Company Tour.
In a recent interview he said this, “The feeling of inclusion I have in that band saved my life.”
Interviewer: “In what way? What does that mean?”
“I was working some stuff out. I was trying to figure out why I was running, what I was running from, where I was running to.
But then I had this opportunity to go and play with The Dead & Company and I went, “Why should I not be playing the music that moves me the most, whenever it moves me?”
And it saved my life because it took me out of this role that was sort of eating me alive. This idea of, well, I’m John Mayer. And that is who I am as a person. And it’s what I am as a being. It’s who I am as a reputation.
And that will kill you.”
Sometimes we keep doing what we’re used to doing because we’re too scared to stop being who we’ve always been.
And that will kill you.
You don’t have to keep showing up to work that’s wildly unfulfilling. You don’t have to hang with the same people. You don’t have to follow through just because you said you would. You don’t have to keep carrying around what feels heavy. You don’t have to silence what you really want to say.
You don’t have to continue fulfilling the same role because it makes things easier for someone else.
Go where you are moved, even if it doesn’t make sense or feel practical. Let yourself explore what’s calling you, even if it rocks the boat or isn’t valued by those around you.
When you ignore the instincts you have to give yourself what you need, you end up feeling stuck and stressed and frustrated. This sets the conditions for making future choices that leave you feeling disappointed. You begin to buy into the belief that it’s hard to achieve meaningful change. This all leads you to one of the most painful places, asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
What’s wrong, is that you’ve developed the habit of preventing yourself from following your instinct.
We’re all afraid of what we might lose by allowing ourselves to change, but once you get a taste of all the ways your life gets better and easier each time you “play the music that moves you whenever it moves you,” you’ll realize you aren’t losing a thing, you’re saving your life.
What have you been holding yourself back from exploring?
What role are you used to playing that’s eating you alive (in some way)?
What’s ONE move you want to make this week to help yourself figure out who you most need to be?
The more worthy you feel of creating the life you want, the easier it is to change.
Love and light,
xx Lori Fields, LCSW
The principles I share may sound simple, but can feel challenging at times to integrate into your everyday life.
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