How to Become More Interesting
Life isn’t supposed to be boring. We weren’t put on this planet to just check the boxes and settle for average. Instead, we should strive to become the best versions of ourselves, creating memorable experiences along the way. When we look back on our lives, we should be proud of what we’ve done and want other people to read our autobiographies. While achieving our goals should definitely be part of that story, we should also ensure that we’ve led an interesting life worth reading about.
While the meaning of “interesting” is up for debate, Google defines it as “arousing curiosity or interest; holding or catching the attention.” If we break that down a bit, being interesting means that people want to learn more about you and hear what you have to say. When people want to learn more about you, it’s likely because you’ve done something different than what they’ve experienced and they find that intriguing. When people want to hear what you have to say, it’s probably because you’ve led them to believe that you have something worth saying.
So, why even attempt to become interesting? For many reasons, chief of which is to satisfy our innate curiosity as humans.
As you continue to follow that curiosity and write your own life story, here are 11 ways to help you become more interesting:
1. TRAVEL / EXPLORE
Sitting at home all the time is plain old boring. You’ve got to get up and move so you can experience the world. On a more local level, try going out and exploring the town / city you live in. Think about where you haven’t been or what you haven’t learned and set out on an adventure. You can quickly become the local expert that knows all the go-to spots. Consider spending time in neighboring towns / cities to change up the pace of just hanging out where you live.
On a more macro level, traveling outside your state or country will make you more interesting. The world is so big that you can spend a lifetime getting to know it. Whether traveling for work or pleasure, it’s important to learn about and experience different cultures. It not only helps give you a more worldly point of view but also allows you to experience different ways of what it means to be human. Besides immersing yourself in the culture, learning a little bit about local history will give you better context and an appreciation for how the town / city came to be.
2. HAVE DIFFERENT HOBBIES
While your job is a key part of your life, don’t be the guy or girl who just gets up, goes to work, watches TV, goes to bed and repeats it all over again the next day. Rather, spend your free time learning about or doing something that stimulates you and is fun.
Even though a lot of us already have one or more hobbies, I think too many people just scratch the surface with them and/or are not trying enough new ones. I get that some just do hobbies for fun and don’t necessarily want to increase their skill levels, but also I think there’s value in getting incrementally better at them (e.g. making yourself proud, teaching people, showing off your knowledge, turning your hobby into a side business, etc.). As for trying new hobbies, there are probably a dozen things you’ve come across that you’ve wanted to try but never have because you can’t find the time. Make a list of all those things and start going all in on one of the items. Once you feel like you’ve gotten enough out of it, move to the next item on the list.
3. MEET NEW PEOPLE
While it’s possible to be interesting and not know many people, the opportunities that come your way when you have friends who run in different circles can be life-changing. On the one hand, it’s easier than ever to meet new people given the advances in technology. However, at the same time, a lot of us are okay accepting the comfort of our current network.
If you’re happy with your current situation, fine. If you want to elevate it and become more interesting, make an effort to meet and connect new people. For starters, try reaching out to coworkers and high school / college alumni that you want to get to know better. Also consider joining interest based meet-up groups and connecting with your social media followers that engage with your content but you don’t know as well. As you expand your network, be that person who facilitates intros & get-togethers and knows everyone.
4. BE SPONTANEOUS
While it’s great to have plans, you should try to be more flexible and up for anything at any time. You never know what adventure life is going to throw your way. Changing your mindset and behavior in this way will force you to try new things that put you out of your comfort zone. Not to mention that you’ll probably get a good story out of it too and inspire people to be more spontaneous.
5. HAVE GOALS / MAKE A BUCKET LIST
Coasting through life isn’t going to cut it if you want to be interesting. You need to think big picture and have a clear sense of what you want to accomplish in life. The best way to do that is to have a master plan. Write out the major achievements and experiences you envision yourself doing on a piece of paper. The loftier the goals, the better. Make the list completely your own and use it as a roadmap to help measure your life’s meaning and success.
6. BE INFORMED
Interesting people know a little bit about everything. Translation — read a lot. Try keeping up with the news headlines generally and devouring books about specific subjects that interest you. This will allow you to participate in a variety of conversations at a cocktail party, even the ones where others think you don’t belong.
7. PURSUE A SIDE PROJECT / BUSINESS VENTURE
9 pm — 5 pm is not interesting enough anymore. What are you doing outside of work that taps into your passions? Maybe it’s writing a book. Maybe it’s designing a product you want to sell. As long as it’s not binge watching shows and going to bed, you’re winning.
When someone you haven’t chatted with in awhile asks you how things are going, your answer should be more than the typical “busy.” Instead, you should generally talk about the passion project you’re focusing on outside of work and how that coming along. Ideally, you’ve already been sharing what you’ve been working on across your social networks so that people you run into might already know what you’re up to and can’t wait to learn more about it.
Whether it’s testing out a new diet, doing new exercises or changing up your morning routine, you need to be open to adopting new habits. Conducting mini experiments on yourself is the best way to learn quickly and figure out what will increase your quality of life. The key here is to not spread yourself too thin, be open to new ideas and make sure you’re sticking with what works. Have some fun along the way, too.
9. PRODUCE ORIGINAL CONTENT
In a world driven by online media consumption, the best way to let people know what you’re all about is through content. Regardless of whether or not you want to build a platform for yourself, putting out content that gives people a glimpse into your life / POV on the world automatically makes you more relevant and interesting, as most people just don’t have the courage to do it. Find the medium that works best for you to communicate your message and regularly share on it. Show people how unique you are and what you care about. Go deep.
10. BE A CONTENT CURATOR
In addition to producing your own content, you should also be sharing that of others. It helps show that your have a good eye for quality work, adds depth to your POV on the world / original content, and lets you put the spotlight on others for the generous work they’re doing. Personally, I love sharing the blog posts and articles written by my favorite authors so that others can be exposed to them. The more quality content you’re sharing, the more your friends and followers will look to you to recommend the best, most interesting content out there.
11. BECOME A BETTER STORYTELLER
Before you can tell stories better, you have to go out and live them. If you work on the above ten tips, you’ll be well on your way.
As for telling them, what is it worth to be interesting but not have the ability to captivate people when you share your experiences? You need to become a better storyteller by constantly working on how you deliver your message across different media. Think about how you’re going to hook people in, keep them interested, and leave them asking for more. Tell your stories with more intentionality and pay close attention to audience feedback. Watch your abilities improve as you continue to put in the reps.
I challenge you to put some of these tips into action and show the world just how unique you are. The rest of your life story is waiting to be written.
Do you have any other tips on becoming more interesting? If so, share them in the comments below.
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