Growing Up and Other Games You Lose Just By Playing

I know. They told me growing up was difficult but I'm an optimist. The amount of difficult decisions one has to make just before and just after 20 should be a crime.

In fact, this holds true for life after 20 unless you realize one thing. No one is forcing you to play this game called life, at least not the standard version.

The standard version is a grind. It is tedious. It is monotonous. It is almost unbearable. It is so fast paced that life flies by, without giving you a chance to live it.

But this isn't true for everyone. The question becomes, what's the difference between those who play the standard version and those who seem to be playing a different game all together?

The answer is potential. More specifically, realized potential. Every player has the potential to change the game he currently plays. How do they do so? By exploring the composibility of the game. Every game is a collection of many overlapping and interacting smaller games.

The key then is to find the smaller games. These smaller games are easier to win and usually more entertaining and rewarding. While "The Game" is singular, the smaller games are infinite, and always in a state of flux. In fact, you can often change how they work entirely, consider innovators in every field. You can define your own game and set the rules, consider inventors in any field.

Can these smaller games be found by accident? Of course they can. However, the nature of these games is that they lend themselves to be found by those who actively seek them.

One way to find a game within a game is using focus and perspective. A journalist once said something interesting about the reigning NBA MVP, Stephen Curry. He said that Curry has found a game within a game. Whilst most players aim for the basket, Curry aims for the bottom of the net. For him, a miss is when the ball hits the rim and goes in. His focus on a more narrow, a more specific, aspect of shooting drives him to practice that much more. The result? 7 years into his career, he is considered the best shooter of all time. Did Steph find this inner game by accident? Focus like this is often a result of an active effort to improve.

Have you found smaller games to play? If so, how many games are you playing right now? Please feel free to comment below.

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