Jennifer
Jennifer
Jul 26, 2017 · 1 min read

I’m curious why the focus is on the future SIL not including you in her side of the party, versus your brother? I know that historically there has been gender segregation in wedding parties, but this is a great example of why that really doesn’t make sense. Each part of the couple should feel free to include their special people, regardless of gender.

I got married last fall, and I made sure to include my siblings (only had one attendant, my sister who I’m extremely close to, and then had a functional role for my brother) and my spouse didn’t have any attendants, but I would see it as his role to include his family as he wanted.

I’m not really close to his family; they are friendly and nice to me, but there is also a lot of homophobia and I’m gay (which is easy-ish for people to ignore since I’m a bi cis woman married to a cis man, so….), so it’s just not something I choose to engage with all that much.

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    Jennifer works in human rights, and lives with her fiance and their bunny.

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