Transmuting Romantic Thinking Around Pain

Do you talk to yourself like I have in the past? “No one knows better than I do (about A, B, C), but where’s that steering wheel and rule book?” You know deep down what’s best, but the “how” is missing.

In my 20′s, I had a dream that a doctor would figure out that I had something huge, a diagnosis that would explain my pain, which, from that day onward would lay the groundwork for the direction of my life. Life would be happy all of the time. There would be nothing to figure out. I’d find my life purpose. The road would be golden, and all of the cares of the world would be solved.

Play my shrink…you know I got busted. Here’s my rule book.

Unstick your romantic notions about your pain so that you can heal

• Breathe. Just breathe. Notice your body and where you’re carrying tension. Endorphins and enkephalins will settle in to those areas of tension, and GABA will increase your mood and help you focus.
• Play some great music. Your dopamine levels will increase giving you a sense of accomplishment and purpose.
• Give and receive a good squeeze. Oxytocin raises your sense of belonging with hugs, like being in a tribe where everyone knows you.
• Do some light walking with no specific destination. Clear your mind. Your pituitary gland will regroup and access areas of clarity.
• If you’re struggling, seek support from someone who knows you and your goals.
• Evolve with people like you.

You can idealize your pain and stay in pain, or you can experience the positive effects of transformation. Feel good in your body, and everything will be easier. Get in the driver’s seat.