The problem with being a people pleaser
Melissa Mesku

I love every.letter.of.this.article. Because, shit, it basically describes me and my life in vivid detail. I could never articulate it like this as i don’t have the skills, emotional and mental clarity, nor am i brave enough to dive that deep into my soul, and be able to reach and try to surface and articulate my emotions like this. I admire this ability so much in people! I wish i could develop that. Thank you for reminding me to at least become aware of that.

We are a work in progress. We haven’t done our best work yet. That’s what i believe. I am now 36 and i feel as though as i have just hatched from an egg or something. Stranded on another planet. Late bloomer they say. Late, late bloomer i would say. And in a capitalist society, where you are expected to have things figured out by 30, preferably being a millionaire CEO of some hot startup or some such thing, being a work in progress or a 36 year old hatchling just disqualifies you from even entering the race, even though you are super-ambitious and capable of delivering great value.

Luckily though, that’s just a picture the media is painting, overlaying it over the reality. The reality being, you can achieve anything you want, as long as you put in the work and stay true to yourself. However, getting to know yourself is a huge prerequisite to be able to do any of that. Gather your user requirements first. Then plan the project. I have started my own business as well, and while it has its ups and downs, it’s doing well, beyond what i could ever imagine.

Thank you for writing this. If you have any advice, resources, books, articles which help battle and mitigate being a people pleaser, please share :)

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