When it comes to surviving or even living a comfortable life, there’s very little that we humans “have” to do.
If you think about our standard of living, we’re light years away from any other species on this planet. We don’t wake up with the sole purpose of finding food, finding water, or protecting ourselves from predators, yet we still approach life in a “life or death” manner.
When we approach life like that, we talk ourselves into believing things to be urgent by telling ourselves and others that “I have” to do what ever it is you want to do.
“ I have to go to the store”, “I have to leave work early” or “I have to visit Bob”. No, you don’t have to do any of that, you want to do that. You want to go to the store to buy what you want.You want to leave work early because you’re placing something else in front of your work. You want to visit Bob because you want to be on good terms with him.
All of those things are okay and I’m not criticizing this type of attitude, but I want to point out that there is a huge difference between what we want to do and what we have to do, and when we have the ability to acknowledge the difference it allows us to see the things that matter most to us and the things that are important enough to really say that you “have” to do it.