I have experienced the same issues with people dismissing me because I APPEAR a certain way to them as well. People make too many assumptions too quickly. Ironically I’ve been dismissed by LBGTQ spaces AND cis spaces pretty equally. You’re right in saying unless you are willing to blurt out your very personal and private history or feelings you can’t gain traction. You become voiceless unless you can peg yourself with an acceptable label.

I struggle with dysphoria daily (and have my whole life, but it was worse when I am expected to conform to specific gender norms) but don’t identify as trans. Agender would possibly be the closest “truth”, though I do wish I could be agender in a male body because being male seems so much easier from this side of the fence. Especially today when I had to deal with harassment and rape threats just for going out in society. I just wish the idea of masculinity and femininity would blur into nothingness. Or at the very least not be seen as two sides of a coin. Opposites, somehow, like we aren’t all human.